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Love & Affection

Three Great Essays on Single Life, and One Ending with a Wedding

Earlier this year, the magazine Marie Claire invited four women to contribute essays on the topic, “Love and the Single Girl,” teased as “Single Girl Trend – Women Staying Single.” Three of the essays were insightful and fresh.

Rebecca Traister, author of Big Girls Don’t Cry, wrote the opening essay, “The single girl revolution.” Quickly reviewing the many buzzy books and magazine articles about single people that...
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Marriage? Don’t Push It

American culture is saturated with matrimania – the over-the-top hyping of marriage, weddings, and coupling. It's all over the place – media, religion, the workplace, everyday conversations, and even our nation's laws. So it got my attention when three separate essays I recently read suggested a more cautious approach to pushing marriage on single people. Not one of the essays was written by someone out to mock or undermine marriage.

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Marriage

A 7-Year Profile of People Who Are Single

What does the profile of single Americans look like, and how has it changed over the past seven years? That’s a question I can answer, thanks to the annual demographic data reported by the Census Bureau in its “Facts for Features” press release for Unmarried and Single Americans Week (the third full week of September).

In my last post, I showed how the number and percentage of single Americans (always-single, divorced,...
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The 102 Million Singles March

The third full week of September marks the beginning of National Singles Week, or more formally, Unmarried and Single Americans Week. In 2012, the official dates are Sunday September 16 through Saturday September 22.

For a while now, the Census Bureau has been marking the event by issuing an annual “Facts for Features” press release with the most recent statistics. I have been collecting these press releases since 2006, so I thought...
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Not Against Coupling, But Beyond It

Michael Cobb, author of the academic book, Single: Arguments for the Uncoupled, has discovered what so many other people have when they say something positive about single life – they get a lot of pushback. I have found that, too, as an author, but you can get the singles treatment just by going about your everyday life and daring to suggest that you are enjoying your single...
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Have You Been Bullied into Coupling?

When people wag their finger at you and warn that you had better get married or else you are going to die alone, they are trying to scare you into coupling. That’s what English Professor Michael Cobb told in an interview about his new academic book, Single: Arguments for the Uncoupled. I will write about the book in some future post. First, in this post and the...
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Marriage

Single Warriors Are Healthiest, But What about Employment and Home Ownership?

In my previous post, I described the first set of results from the RAND report about the Wounded Warriors Project. Those findings showed that on all sorts of measures of emotional and physical health, the veterans who had always been single were the healthiest. In this second part, I will summarize the other data from the report. Those results answer the questions of whether the vets of different marital statuses differed...
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Wounded Warriors: The Single Ones Are the Most Resilient

Do you know the cliché about “the rock”? That’s what married people often call their spouse, especially in times of difficulty. In the media, the same sort of story is popular: When one person in a couple seems to be there for their partner, the first person is called “the rock.”

Supposedly, the social support that one spouse can give to another is supposed to result in married people being mentally and physically healthier...
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