Archives for May, 2012

Where’s Your Sanctuary?

Do you have a special place you can go where you feel comforted and calm? A place that is almost sacred, where no one else is likely to intrude?

I have recently started interviewing people for a new project on how we live today (alone? alone but near others who are important to us? with others? which others?) and how we find just the right mix, for each of us as individuals, of time alone and time together. (I’m finding some people from...
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The Little Indie That Could – and the Hollywood Version That Couldn’t

Recently I saw the movie, The Five-Year Engagement. I know, I should have known better. It was pretty funny at times, but honestly, with all the talent and creativity on offer, does Hollywood really have to produce the exact same ending every single time?

I hadn’t read anything about the movie before I went, so I was surprised to discover that my very own field of social psychology had a role. Emily Blunt, playing...
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People Who Are Decidedly NOT Single-at-Heart Describe Their Fears and Joys: Part 3

In my last post, I shared some of the personal accounts of the appeal of solitude, as offered by people who see themselves as single at heart. The single-at-heart typically love their time alone.

It is a different story for those people who say that NO, they are not single at heart. First I will relate some of the ways they talked about time alone. As their comments indicate, that’s not what they...
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Odes to Solitude: In the Words of People Who Are Single-at-Heart

Last time I posted here, I described the survey I have been conducting, “Are you single at heart?,” and promised to tell you about the results from the first 1200 participants. That’s what I’ll do in this post (Part 2 of the series), a few subsequent posts, and this one.

After the survey, in which participants had answered a number of questions, I asked them to tell me whether they thought...
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Results of the Single-at-Heart Survey: Part 1

Results are in from the first 1,200 people to participate in the survey, “Are you single at heart?” There is so much to tell you from this first, exploratory study of people who are and are not single at heart, so I will write several posts on the topic.

In this post, I will mostly describe the kinds of questions that were in the survey and preview the topics of the next posts. So...
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Maybe You Really Don’t Want to Get Married

Contemporary society is full of matrimania – the over-the-top hyping of marriage, couples and weddings. There is so much marketing of romantic love, and celebration of marriage-minded lovers, that it can be difficult for people who are single at heart to realize that single life really is the most meaningful and authentic life for them. Doesn’t everyone really want to be married?

When I study single life, I do it from the...
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Asexuality Arrives

In 2009, before I was blogging here at PsychCentral, a reader of another blog asked me to address the topic of asexuality. The post I wrote, “Asexuals: Who are they and why are they important?,” immediately became one of my most popular articles, garnering tens of thousands of page views in short order.

I first learned about the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN) while researching that blog post. Because I reviewed...
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Prom Night: Can It Turn a Traditional High School Student into an Activist?

From what I’ve read about her, Amanda Dougherty seemed to be a traditional high school student. She’s a 17-year old at a Catholic high school who was so excited about her junior prom that she bought her dress months in advance. She had also bought her ticket to the prom and her shoes and other accessories.

Amanda and her girlfriends started a Facebook page, closed to the guys, so they could...
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