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Archives for October, 2011

Love & Affection

Single, Anita Hill Style: Long-Term Partner and Separate Homes

“A little bit nutty and a little bit slutty.” That’s how one ideologue characterized the brave, brilliant, and unflinching woman who testified before a committee of all white men in the Senate confirmation hearings for Clarence Thomas.

The person who crafted that malicious put-down would later apologize. Anita Hill was nothing of the sort. Her courage, alongside the shabby treatment she received, galvanized more women to run for office and more of...
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Love & Affection

10 Things No One Ever Tells You about the Children of Single Parents

Toward the end of her attention-grabbing cover story of the Atlantic magazine, Kate Bolick shares what she has discovered about the attractions of single life for women. Often single women have networks of close friends. They can balance autonomy and intimacy. They can even raise children.

But then she adds this parenthetical aside: “(Evidence suggests that American children who grow up amidst the disorder that is common to single-parent homes...
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Marriage

8 Best Things About All the Single Ladies

Beyonce’s “All the Single Ladies” is one of those hits that just never grow old. At a time when other tunes would have receded into the deeper recesses of our minds, “All the Single Ladies” gets revitalized.

Here are some of my favorite things about three different versions of “All the Single Ladies”: the original, from Beyonce; a recent magazine article by the same name; and my own take on “all the single ladies”...
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General

In a Sudden Medical Emergency, Will a Spouse Save Your Life?

“Why marriage isn’t the key to a happy life.” That was the subtitle of a post on another website, written by Buddhist physician Alex Lickerman. I agree that marriage does not transform miserable single people into blissfully happy married people. Research shows that most single people are already happy, and that getting married does not result in lasting increases in happiness. (If you marry and...
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Love & Affection

The Today Show and Atlantic Magazine: Featuring Single Life

One of my previous posts here at “Single at Heart” was titled, Living single life fully, joyfully, and without apology. Time to blow up that theme into a feature story gracing the cover of the November issue of the Atlantic magazine.

The author, Kate Bolick, was also interviewed for two segments of the Today show. Single life is at the center of the Today interviews. The Atlantic story also includes an...
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Marriage

Pictures of Female Body Parts, Then and Now

Forty years ago – in 1971, not the Stone Age – a book sparked controversy and scandal in part because it included unadorned, non-sexualized pictures of women’s body parts.

The medical establishment at the time was a parade of men, hardly ever interrupted by even a lone female, marching to the beat of her own drummer. The book encouraged women to look at themselves (literally), learn about themselves, and stand up to questionable views from the...
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myths about single people

Myths About Single People Are So Silly

In this “Single at Heart” blog, I will often challenge the myths about people who are single. Before I started studying single people and their place in society, I did not realize that most of the conventional wisdom about single people is grossly exaggerated or just plain wrong.

Then I started reading articles published in the academic journals. I was just stunned by the disconnect between the headlines I saw so often in...
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myths about single people

Living Single Life Fully, Joyfully and Without Apology

Welcome, PsychCentral readers! I’m delighted to introduce you to my new blog, Single at Heart.

This will be unlike just about everything else you read about singles. It is a blog about living your single life fully, joyfully, and without apology, whether you are single for the moment, for a while, or for a lifetime. It is not a blog about dating tips or advice for finding The One.

Much of what I...
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