A few weeks ago, when I learned that Psych Central was sold to Healthline, I published my thank-you note to my readers and to all the people who made Psych Central such a great site. Now that it is clear that Healthline is putting an end to all of the blogs, I wanted to let you know where you can find me and my writings going forward.
Maybe you heard the news today that Psych Central, brainchild of Dr. John Grohol, will now be in the hands of Healthline. Dr. Grohol has been devoted to this site for the past quarter century and has built it into something wonderful.
As the pandemic drags on, especially in places like the U.S. where there is no end in sight, lots of people are thinking about their living arrangements. Some are so very grateful to be living just as they are, whether that is alone (in my case) or in one of the many different ways of living with other people.
If you are single, you have probably been asked all sorts of questions that are not always welcome or appropriate. Questions like, “Why are you single?”, or even worse, “Why are you still single?”
I am happy to share the good news that Craig Wynne, friend of “Single at Heart” who has contributed previously as a guest blogger, has just published a wonderful new book, How to Be a Happy Bachelor. I asked him if he would answer some questions about his book, and I am delighted that he agreed.
When it comes to dining out on your own, we are at an uncertain place. Some people have been doing it for ages and think nothing of it. Others think it sounds awful and can’t imagine ever trying it. (They should try it anyway. Research suggests they may be pleasantly surprised.)
[Bella’s intro: When I first started studying single people, there was something I found perplexing. It seemed to me that single people who were happily single and said so were viewed more harshly than those who were miserably single and looking to become unsingle. I only had anecdotes at first, but now there are several studies showing just that. In fact, that research shows that people are sometimes actually angry at single people who say that they want to be single.
“Well, at least it is better than being in a bad relationship.” If you are single, maybe you’ve heard that one from friends or family members who are coupled. Sometimes that offering is well-intended, but it is also grudging. People who say things like that make single life seem like the sad, pitiful choice you would make only if your only alternative was a lousy romantic relationship or marriage.
For some old people, life during the pandemic is so unbearable, they are giving up. Being cut off from visits, socializing, and other activities that brought them joy may have been tolerable for a while, but now, it is starting to seem like there is no end in sight. No longer able to have a cherished nephew or devoted aide with them during life-saving treatments, some just stop the treatments. The New York Times reports that older people are attempting suicide at higher rates – not just cries for help, but genuine efforts.
Some kinds of jobs, such as teaching, can potentially be performed either in person or online. But if schools don’t offer all teachers the option of working from home, then who will be granted that privilege and how will that be decided?