Love & Affection

Solitaries: Who They Are and What They Offer

As a person who has studied single people for several decades, and lived single my entire life, I am starting to get inquiries from reporters who want to write about the experience of being single in the time of COVID-19. A few have been amazing. They already know not to pity all people who are single and living alone when social distancing is mandated; they understand that some of us love our solitude and are faring much better than the stereotypes predict.

How we live now

I’m Mostly Fine Now, But What about 2 Weeks from Now?

A few years ago, I went for weeks without any contact with other humans. It was a time when the people I see most often all just happened to be away or otherwise preoccupied for some reason. Instead of doing what might have come naturally, reaching out to the people I don’t see that often, I decided to turn the experience into an experiment.


Microinterventions: How to Educate, and Not Alienate, the Perpetrators of Microaggressions

It happened again. You got pelted with a microaggression. You thought about the meaning behind it, considered the costs and benefits of responding, and now you have come down on the side of saying something to the aggressor. But how do you do that in a way that is educational and not off-putting? How can you get the person to think in a more enlightened way and not just respond defensively?


What Was the Meaning Behind that Microaggression?

I have been pilloried for pointing out the microaggressions of single life. Whether I’m writing about them or discussing them in everyday life, I get mocked and attacked – sometimes even by other single people. So I -- along with all the people targeted by microaggressions based on other categories such as race, gender, disability, age, or size – need to decide each time whether to instead just ignore them.