I’m mad at myself. I’ve been writing about singlism for years. I encourage single people to stand up for themselves when other people practice singlism -- by stereotyping them, stigmatizing them, marginalizing them, discriminating against them, or invading their privacy by asking the kinds of questions they would never pose to people who are married. And yet, I sometimes let singlist remarks slide.
What is it like to stay single for life in a place where 99% of the people get married?
If you are single, and especially if you are single beyond the age at which some other person thinks you should be married, you have probably been challenged about it. “Why are you still single?” they ask. It is not an innocent question. It seems to suggest that everyone wants to become unsingle, and if you are not there yet, you have some explaining to do. Too often, the real subtext seems to be, “What’s wrong with you?”
In 1960, I was 7 years old. Every school day, my dad went off to work in the morning and my mom stayed home. I think that was true of just about all of my little friends in the neighborhood where I grew up.
The decades-long rise in the number of single people has brought many changes. One is that dining alone and traveling alone have become commonplace. It is just no big deal anymore.
In a previous post, I shared 3 questions I was asked about single people in the workplace, including how they are treated and what counts as fair. I then answered the first two questions in subsequent posts (here and here). Here is the final post in this series, the third question and my answer to it.
When the actress Emma Watson described herself as “self-partnered,” she launched an explosion of tweets, commentaries, and think pieces. The frenzy has mostly died down by now, but the long tail is still with us. One of the recent contributions is a perspective missing from most of the others, an historical one.
In a previous post, I shared 3 questions I was asked about expectations of single people in the workplace. I also posted my answer to the first question. Here is the second question, along with my answer.
In a previous post, I shared three questions I was asked about how single people should be treated in the workplace. I only posted the questions, to give any interested readers a chance to think about them and maybe generate their own answers before reading mine. Here, again, is the first question, now along with my answer.