Free Solo – Stop Hiding Behind your Screen

 I once knew a girl from work in the Internet heyday (circa 1999). We worked together remotely building online support groups. We developed the largest ever online health communities. My colleague and I worked together for many years without ever having met. I knew her. I came to rely on her. And we are still friends. In fact, we have the same first name.

But with my young...


Boredom Hurts: 5 Steps to a Reset

She asked:
What if I never meet Mr. Right?
What if I can't get pregnant?
What if I'm not enough?
What if he cheats?
What if I have a panic attack? 
What if I'm dying?
The spiral of fear and avoidance continues daily.

Anxiety attaches itself to everything in its path like a tornado picking up debris.

And she stayed home on the couch....


What’s Wrong with Me? It’s Not You

     So we enter a time in our history where nothing matters, people are angry and the middle class is screwed. College and healthcare cost too much for the middle class. How will young people contribute if they are saddled with debt? As my husband stated so clearly, who will suport the economy if we can't afford to purchase the goods and services? Right in our own family we have people on Medicaid and...


Movies R Us – 4 Shows and Why they Matter

I’m interested mostly in how movies regard therapy and who are the best celluloid shrinks. It’s my personal pet peeve that movies and TV shows highlight the worst of therapy and mental illness in general. They seem to be stuck in a kind of “War of the Roses” mindset, where divorce and family problems are solved through screaming and escalating.

Let’s start with the good news. The therapist on the Sopranos, Dr. Jennifer Melfi,...


Why Yoga? 6 Steps to Relieve Anxious Moods Naturally

I'm anxious. Anxious traveler. Anxious driver. Anxious mother. There I said it. It was only when I found yoga with psychotherapy that I could regulate it on the spot. Now I use mind/body approaches in all my work. Why?

Science has shown that the body keeps the score.

Google anxiety, google yoga. The breathe complements our nervous systems. Calm the breathe and you calm your mind.

Do a child's pose. Legs up the wall, forward...


Anxiety Attacks and 6 Ways to Self-Soothe

I was having a panic attack myself when the client walked in stating she had been having one for 4 days.  There were a lot of things to consider.

First things first.  Put on your own oxygen mask before you can help anyone else.  So I put my anxiety in a box and saved it for later that night (oh joy).

She had a history of anxiety since her first diagnosis of a life-threatening medical...


The Bad Session – 3 Mistakes and How to Correct Them

I have been doing family therapy for 30 years.  I really enjoy my work. But recently there have been some difficult cases that left me upset and troubled for days. Let's try to reflect on what's going on.

The first case was that of a family with young kids in the throws of a separation. While they had already done the work of one partner moving out and adjusting the kids' schedules, (and boy were...


Social Justice in Teen Group – 3 Inspired Stories


Teen group tonight 16 year old girl gets into how she told her *friend group* off for some racist remarks, risking her entire social status. Other kids in tonight's group supported her and had similar stories. We applauded her courage in standing up for what is right.

Next, a girl says that her BFF was in mental hospital for depression when another friend called her several times to see how she was...