In keeping with the new direction of my blog I’m going to focus more on the self-discovery process. It occurred to me the other day that I was laughing with the client because I completely and utterly understood where she was coming from. Not just the effort of being caring in the therapy setting, but the actual experience of knowing. And then it hit me (like a ton of bricks). No wonder I’ve been so successful at helping my young adult clients overcome anxiety — (wait for it) — I have it too!!!
Of course I know this for many decades.
But I had a kind of breakthrough. I can laugh at the insanity of it all. I’ve been there and done that on every single occasion you can bring to me. Here are some examples:
- Driving too fast (husband)
- Job interviews
- My dog who doesn’t listen
- Tossing and turning
- Blocking out traumas
- Wanting control
- My kids driving (always)
- Health issues (real and imagined)
- Nail biting
And then comes the humility. It’s not always pretty being anxious. But you can succeed in spite of yourself.
So what are the things I do to take my mind off of it, that I share with my clients on an hourly basis?
- dont sweat the small stuff
- dont take everything personally
- be mindful
- be quiet
- slow down
- people have good days and bad days
- we’re only human
- nobody’s perfect
- this too shall pass
- do what you love
- have patience and compassion for yourself
- who cares!
I think my experience of anxiety is fairly universal. It does make me recognize it better in my patients. But there’s still plenty of work to do! Won’t you join me?!