Why are we glorifying horror.
I’ll admit it. After watching Game of Thrones for the 2nd time I feel a bit less shocked by all the violence. Is that it? If we expose ourselves to enough gore we can handle the shock better? Ask a teenager who likes horror movies or video games. It gets your blood pumping while at the same time reassures you that you’re safe? Something is going on with all the violence but I don’t know what.
In the new season of 13 Reasons Why (which I did not see, but interviewed my daughter about), there is one scene so disgusting it defies logic. She says the producers wanted to “get us talking” so as not to overlook the horrors around us.
Are teens worse off today? Seems so. Statistics may say teen anxiety is the same but more widely reported and/or diagnosed. How do we prevent these issues from coming faster and harder? One group sent a warning message about the series:
- Maintaining healthy relationships requires a range of skills, including the ability to communicate honestly and effectively, to jointly solve problems, to manage anger, and to be generous. Healthy relationships also greatly benefit from the ability to zoom in—to take another’s perspective in a real and deep way—and to zoom out—to step back for a more wide-angle view of the relationship and its dynamics, strengths, and challenges.
This seems like an important approach. How else will you know if a relationship is poisonous or toxic if you have nothing to compare it to?
We must keep trying to understand why 13 Reasons is even on our radar in the first place. The Show’s creater says,
- “But the fact is that, as intense as that scene is, and as strong as are or reactions to it may be, it doesn’t even come close to the pain experienced by the people who actually go through these things. When we talk about something being “disgusting” or hard to watch, often that means we are attaching shame to the experience. We would rather not be confronted with it. We would rather it stay out of our consciousness. This is why these kinds of assaults are underreported. This is why victims have a hard time seeking help. We believe that talking about it is so much better than silence.”
I don’t know. I don’t want to see it. I cannot stomach any more violence than what’s already acceptable on the news, and even that’s too much. We need to get to the root of our problems. And soon.