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Young Adult New Year’s Countdown: Top 10

Learn to Relax!

This is what I’ve heard all year from you, and what you have heard all year from me!

10. Self-care – is not self-ish. It’s real. It counts. It’s important. So spa, rest, sleep, eat and drink water.  Put the phone down!  Avoid over-use of substances such as alcohol, drugs, caffeine, and sugar. Moderation is key.

9. Keep your routines! – even the most whacked out young adults who claim to be night owls need REST, relaxation. Keep your routines daily. Wake up and go to bed at the same time each day. Don’t pull all nighters! Sleep affects your mood. It’s a fact.

  • The Link Between Sleep and Mood — You probably know firsthand that sleep affects mood. After a sleepless night, you may be more irritable, short-tempered, and vulnerable to stress. Once you sleep well, your mood often returns to normal.Studies have shown that even partial sleep deprivation has a significant effect on mood. University of Pennsylvania researchers found that subjects who were limited to only 4.5 hours of sleep a night for one week reported feeling more stressed, angry, sad, and mentally exhausted. When the subjects resumed normal sleep, they reported a dramatic improvement in mood.

8. Love yourself – you have to claim your life NOW. It’s yours. It’s no one else’s. Even with all your flaws you are unique and precious.

7. Love your parents with all their flaws. They are humans too.  Talk to them about their lives and yours.  You can try a family therapist to talk through difficulties.  There is no stigma to this.

6. Make mistakes. Take risks. It’s the only way to grow and learn. Going out of your comfort zone in your 20’s is what you are supposed to do. It will set you up for the rest of your life.

5. Grieve your losses. By the time you’re a young adult you will likely experience the loss of a loved one or relationship or pet. It’s part of life. Feel it and don’t let anyone tell you it’s time to move on until you’re ready.

4. Relationships are work. Give it the time it needs, nurture it, let it breathe and live and be spontaneous. Then talk and agree to disagree. You will create a world of greater patience and understanding in this process.

3. Work hard. No pain no gain. Working hard gives you a payoff of a more secure future.  Do your work first, then play.

2. Patience is a virtue. All good things take time.  As the Buddha says, “Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment. Health is the greatest gift, contentment the greatest wealth, faithfulness the best relationship. What we think, we become. Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon, and the truth.”

1. Do not stay in a relationship that hurts all the time. If it hurts now, it will hurt more later. Be true to yourself and wait for the right person at the right time.  Good things come to those who are ready.


Young Adult New Year’s Countdown: Top 10

Donna C. Moss

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APA Reference
Moss, D. (2017). Young Adult New Year’s Countdown: Top 10. Psych Central. Retrieved on October 22, 2018, from


Last updated: 28 Dec 2017
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 28 Dec 2017
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