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He Said, She Said – Text Convo 1-3

So he said, “I’m not really dating you because we’re just talking.”

And she said, “I’m not really dubbing you because I still like you.”

And then he said, “Let’s just keep it ‘friends with benefits'” and then

She said, “FU, that’s just using me when it’s convenient for you.”

And then he said, “Want to hook up?”

And then she said, “Maybe but what as?”

And then he said, “Why do you have to define everything?”

And she said, “I have to go to bed now, I have a geo test in the morning!”

And he left her hanging.

Then she cried herself to sleep because him not answering surely meant he ghosted.

And he just started texting someone else because he couldn’t sleep.

They both failed the geo test.


So round and round we go.  Some kids simply cannot handle the nuances of texting.

Did you know?

1. Half of teens send 50 or more text messages a day, or 1,500 texts a month, and one in three send more than 100 texts a day, or more than 3,000 texts a month.

2. 15% of teens who are texters send more than 200 texts a day, or more than 6,000 texts a month.

3. Boys typically send and receive 30 texts a day; girls typically send and receive 80 messages per day.

Here are some guidelines:

  1. Sometimes a person is just busy.  They cannot answer right away.  Please understand that.
  2. Sometimes a person who says something vague doesn’t know himself what he wants, so how can he tell you.
  3. Sometimes pushing someone away because you’re afraid of getting hurt is not the answer.  You are pushing the person away who you want to come closer.  Backfire.

Try using honesty when possible.  Say, “It feels bad when you don’t answer me,” or “I wish you would call me more.” or “I miss the way we used to be” instead of “Leave me alone,” or silence or “You’re just a player.”  If you can ask for what you want, you just might get it…

He Said, She Said – Text Convo 1-3

Donna C. Moss

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Moss, D. (2019). He Said, She Said – Text Convo 1-3. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 26, 2019, from


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