Coping Strategies

Zero Sum Game – 10 Reasons to Keep Divorce Lawyers out of Therapy

Stop the Madness

Remember that movie "War of the Roses?"  Think it starred Danny  Somehow all these years later, well into the new Millennium and the new Millennials, we still have this idea fixed in our heads that divorce is like the way it is on TV.  Or Divorce Court?  Or the  Divorce can be an ugly, stressful business.  I have a friend in matrimonial law who says it's the worst stress...
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I feel Empty Inside -3 Fixes for Feeling Nothing

Anxious, worried and racing thoughts.

Boredom.

Depression.

Self-Harm.

Rinse, Repeat. It is difficult to survive depression and mental illness.  DBT is a treatment devised by a therapist with Borderline Personality that incorporated Eastern Religion into Western Fix-It.  It worked so well it is now widely popular in all types of therapy. It involves mindfulness, breathing and relaxation, learning to regulate the above mood situations.  Yet kids still complain it doesn't last long enough to get by.
Dialectical...
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The Divorce That Never Ends – 5 Tips for Teens in the Middle

  Last week I did a Webinar on "Failure to Launch - Revisited" (now on YouTube) why young adults can't get out of their parents' basements.  By putting the blame on our society instead of these kids it was helpful to analyze what makes them powerless in ways beyond their control.

I have also been talking to some lawyers related to cases to encourage them that adolescents and young adults need to have some stake in their...
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13 Reasons Why You Can Skip It…

   I watched most of "13 Reasons Why" this weekend and found it incredibly depressing. LOL. Because there's not much to LOL about. The kids are typical yet morose. The adults are typical yet clueless. I get it. We are missing all the warning signs.

All these things can happen to teens: assault, sexuality, embarrassment, humiliation via social media, rape, depression, drugs and suicide. The problem with the show is that there's no joy in it. You need a...
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13 Reasons Why You and Your Teen Should Talk…

Disclaimer: I have not yet seen "13 Reasons Why."

But the flood of emails from schools and kids and appointments from anxious parents are ringing off the hook.  Why? Why?  There's a lot of fear floating around -- Teens are telling me that bullying hurts. We know this.  Anxiety and depression hurt.  We know this.  But now we have the acceptance of suicide as an option in...
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What’s So Confusing About Dating?

Good Times

Girls just want to have fun, eh? In the hookup culture girls have more freedom. Good for you! But in the real world, most girls I know feel more like, if you like it put a ring on it! Why is that?

Girls have always been more interested in commitment.

That's just how we're wired. Women need stability to raise children while men need to populate as many of their seed as nature...
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