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The Group Bonding Tonight – 2 Ways of Strengthening Your Connections

Isolation

I have been writing about loneliness.  My young adult group last night proved me wrong. There were 8 young ladies all bonding over their issues, sharing, critiquing and venting, with my gentle facilitation.  Of course the reason this all came together is because they have been bonding all year and they finally hit that critical point where they felt safe.  They were patient and spontaneous with each other while being respectful.  And you...
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What Exactly is a “Friend Group?” – 3 Paths to Re-examine

GIRLS

When did "friend group" become a thing?  I certainly don't know.  But of course I hear about it every day from girls. Girls are are the leaders of friend groups.  Boys don't really care.  Girls say who's in and who's out.  This hasn't changed in forever.  I wonder if they have this in other cultures.  Yes, there are reasons for it.  See UNTANGLED for why girls develop a sharp social...
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Untangled – How to Help Your Teen Now

Finally read this book, UNTANGLED.

     My father had recommended it!  You need to run and get it. Calling all parents of teen girls. Everything I've been intuitively doing is right here in elegant subtlety.  It's not so much that anything is so new, except of course some fancy neuro-biology words such as amygdala and hippocampus and pruning.  But rather, it's that Damour gets it.  

She gets that if...
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Loneliness is Real – 4 Tricks to Break Out

  I realized after this summer that we are all the same. Running here and there. Trying to make our kids happy. Checking our phones for work or friends. Looking for something to do. Seeing others inevitably doing better. As David Friend in the NY Times stated so well, this is a product of the 1990's. We set ourselves up for the media frenzy, the tweets and even the president. And yet loneliness...
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Losing Your First Love – A Guide for Teens


As many of us have learned from Elisabeth Kübler-Ross on death and dying,

the five stages, denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance are a part of the framework that makes up our learning to live with the one we lost. They are tools to help us frame and identify what we may be feeling. But they are not stops on some linear timeline in grief.

The same holds for break-ups. Much like a death,...
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