One thought on “Sexual Sobriety: The Boundary Plan

  • August 24, 2012 at 12:30 am

    As an Addictions Therapist working with all kinds of different addictive behaviours including sex addiction, I believe that any addiction — no matter what the ‘drug/behaviour of choice’ may be — is a symptom of what’s underneath it. My job as a therapist is to help clients connect the dots in order to understand their deep need to sabotage their lives — no matter how they’re doing it.

    We know that sex addiction is not about sex, nor does it have anything to do with love — especially not self-love. Sex addiction is another choice on the wide spectrum of ways that people can choose to act out the deep-seated misery they feel inside themselves.

    Yes, it’s very important to focus on the strategies Robert Weiss suggests in his article, but it’s also vital to be looking deeper to see what is really causing people to use addictive behaviours that will eat away at their self-respect and inevitably tear their lives apart. That, to me, is the most imperative work that needs to be done with clients who are trying to recover from any of their painful addictions.


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