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Compulsive Masturbation and Porn

“Compulsive Masturbation? I just like porn –a lot!”

While many people with sexual problems race to therapy the moment they have serious relationship, legal, work or health problems related to their sexual behavior,

5 thoughts on “Compulsive Masturbation and Porn

  • March 11, 2012 at 8:19 pm

    Good article. I have masturbated twice a day almost every day for the last 48 years. I always preferred it to partner sex. In my teenage years I did enjoy a fair amount of sex with a number of partners although I often couldn’t ejaculate with them. In my 20’s I found myself getting sexually bored very quickly after a relationship would start and when that boredom set in so would some fairly serious sexual dysfunctions like difficulty holding an erection during intercourse and the inability to orgasm with a partner. This always caused a lot of stress in the relationship and none lasted more than a few weeks.

    I did get married thinking whatever was causing the problem might be fixed in therapy. Nobody asked about masturbation all my therapists just tried to treat the sexual dysfunctions. Nothing worked and my marriage became sexless.

    I just prefer masturbating to porn rather than all the stress, anxiety and hurt feelings you get having sex with real live women.

    It’s been 20 years since I had sex with a real live person. I sometimes miss the skin to skin contact but I came to realize some people are just unlucky when it comes to relationships. Taking care of my own needs has been the way I have dealt with my higher than normal sex drive since I was a kid.

  • September 26, 2013 at 10:14 pm

    Being a female, I’ve felt very confused and alone in this. I am coming into my 30’s, and only becoming more arroused. My male partners don’t have the high libido that I do. I have always had to touch myself to orgasm, even during intercourse. It really freaks the Man out – he begins to wonder what is wrong w him? Understandably. I’ve been lucky I was married and he accepted it. Still, I would sneak in a masterbation session here and there especially to relieve stress and almost always at night.
    I got divorced many years ago, and haven’t been able to orgasm with any other man except the current one I am with.
    If I feel like I have orgasmed, my partner has orgasmed, and we are both happy then and only then am I happy.

    *sigh* it feels so lonely. I’ve told no one. Just beginning to look into it. Thx for the article

    ~ Mindie

    • September 26, 2013 at 10:22 pm

      Btw, I have had it interfere w my life & time schedule, lately. I always feel terribly shamed but cannot seem to stop. My partner was out of town on a biz trip, and I have wasted 2-3 days now! :-/. Sometimes it is just an hour/hours.
      Again, when I feel satisfied in the relationship and not turned down, sexually, I don’t feel this “urge/need”. One more thing – it is almost impossible (takes hours) to climax since my divorce years ago.
      I was neglected as a child.
      Interesting how it all pieces together…

  • September 20, 2015 at 12:13 am

    I have “masterbated since I was 11 years old…I used to look at my neighbor girls nude behind their house… Mary even sucked my cock one afternoon. I then learned how to masterbate a lot using Playboy magazines. Then; I got Internet and a whole new world of porno opened up for me!!!

  • September 16, 2016 at 4:37 am

    Porn offers attractive visual stimuli, with easy instant access to even more, and different, images. The variety and novelty of those images is something else men have evolved to respond to and seek. From an evolutionary standpoint, males of most species stand a better chance of passing on their genes to the next generation by seeking as many different partners as possible. Humans have evolved socially, and today we are more concerned with passing our genes on to well-adjusted offspring who are part of loving family units, but those urges are still part of the programming. The thing that separates humans from other animals is that we have the ability to control those urges, and we expect ourselves – and each other- to do so.


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