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What Sexual Addiction is NOT…

What Sexual Addiction is NOT...As an addiction and sexual disorders specialist, I often write about sexual addiction. As most readers are “psychologically minded” in venues like this one, I typically assume that you already understand what that term means and does not mean.

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  • July 10, 2013 at 6:24 pm

    Thanks Rob for this posting. I have actually found this more helpful for my work than the articles on what sex addiction IS.

  • July 12, 2013 at 5:48 pm

    Good job. Very illuminating.

    Is there such a thing as “situational” sex addiction? I’m thinking of the Vietnam veterans who got addicted to heroin over in Vietnam. The vast majority of them got clean and stayed clean on their return stateside.

  • October 7, 2017 at 12:54 am

    Is it not possible that arousal patterns that mimic “paraphilias” and “fetishes” can stem from sexual/porn addiction or compulsive sexual behaviors? For example, a person may have an underlying need for novelty and sensation-seeking that leads to unconventional sexual fantasies, not necessarily an innate sexual interest in them. A number of heavy pornography users notice their tastes “escalating” or changing over time, often to things that they originally found uninteresting or disgusting. Furthermore, the same users report becoming bored with some of their fetishes over time as they progress, dropping them off completely, even if these interests had been there for years previously. Yet, these fantasies would have been labelled as innate, life-long “paraphilias” or “paraphilic disorders” by psychiatry. Please take no offence, but I don’t believe psychiatry reflects the actual reality many people experience. Psychiatry seems to be more interested in allocating people in to its own pre-defined boxes, using arbitrary indicators as indicators of an “illness” (e.g. what makes 6 months the magic delineating point between a transient interest and a paraphilia? Some people’s transient interests take longer to pass for various reasons. It’s not necessarily due to an underlying sexual pathology) In the process it is causing unnecessary mislabelling and distress for many.


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