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Intimacy & Fidelity

What People Really Want to Know About Sex (My Reddit.com “Ask Me Anything” Experience) 


A few weeks ago I agreed to host a Reddit AMA without actually knowing what I’d agreed to do. So I did a quick bit of research and found out that Reddit is a huge website that hosts “discussion threads” on almost any topic you can imagine. And many of the site’s most popular discussions originate with AMA (Ask Me Anything) sessions, where celebrities or subject matter experts answer...
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Pornography

New Study Links Compulsive Porn Abuse and Sexual Dysfunction


A recent study by Aline Wéry and Joel Billieux, both from the Université Catholique de Louvain, published in the journal, Computers in Human Behavior, sheds light on the characteristics, usage patterns, motives, and consequences of addictive online sexual activity.

Wéry and Billieux conducted a large-scale online study of French speaking men recruited on a university messaging service, social networks, research networks, and sexuality related forums. Anonymity of participants was guaranteed in an effort to achieve more...
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Sex & Technology

Teens, Digital Devices, and Sexual Problems

Tech: Sex Ed for All, Sex Problems for Some
The holidays are over and young people are diving headlong into use of their brand new digital devices. In addition to video games and social media, some kids, especially adolescents, are using their freshly acquired laptops, pads, smartphones, and the like as a gateway for sexual exploration, experimenting with pornography, sexting, video chat, “friend finder” apps, and more. Unfortunately, for some kids these...
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Sex & Technology

A Review of Recent Research on Teen Sexting

For the last several years, teen sexting scandals have sporadically hit the news, most recently in Long Island, NY, where two 14-year-old boys sent a sex video (involving another minor) to a large group of their friends, and in Cañon City Colorado, where a hundred or more high schoolers turned sexting into a game of “whoever collects the most nude pics of fellow students is King of the...
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Pornography

Celebrity Hypocrisy – It’s Not Just Them

Same Story, Different News Cycle
Fame: Reality TV star Josh Duggar of 19 Kids and Counting was an active, respected member of a highly visible conservative Christian church, and he served as Executive Director of FRC Action, a conservative Christian political group affiliated with and sponsored by the equally conservative Family Research Council.
Reality: Duggar has admitted to molesting at least five underage girls, including...
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Pornography

Does Porn Re-Wire the Brain?

The Plastic Brain
The brains of human beings are highly adaptive. This is actually one of our most useful evolutionary traits, helping us to not only survive, but thrive. In fact, our wonderfully malleable brains are why we, and not tigers or sharks or bull elephants, are at the top of the food chain. In other words, as humans we are not entirely reliant on our instincts like most other species. Instead,...
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Pornography

Child Porn Offenders and the Sentencing Process: Part Two, Psychosexual Evaluations

Different Motivations, Different Risks

In part one of this posting I discussed the increasingly aggressive sanctions that are levied against most child porn offenders, noting that current sentencing guidelines have been driven primarily by media, political, and social paranoia rather than research based facts about offenders and their behaviors. Essentially, the legal system seems to think that if a person is looking at...
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Sex & Technology

Recovery from Cybersex Addiction: Part Three – Tips on Using Cybersex Boundary Plans


As discussed in my previous posting to this site and in my recently published book, Always Turned On: Sex Addiction in the Digital Age, coauthored with Dr. Jennifer Schneider, the definition of cybersex sobriety and the content of cybersex boundary plans both vary according to the needs and life circumstances of the addict in question. That said, whatever the...
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Addictions

Recovery from Cybersex Addiction: Part One – Initial Action Steps

For the last five years (at least), Jerry, a handsome 36-year-old office manager, has put the search for sex ahead of all else – even though he’s not having any in-person sexual encounters. Instead, he looks at and masturbates to hardcore pornography for several hours each weeknight and all day on the weekends, and occasionally he engages in mutual masturbation with strangers via webcam. Until a...
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Sex & Technology

Does Your Client Have a Cybersex Problem?

Levels of Cybersex Use

In today’s digitally driven world it can be difficult to distinguish between those whose involvement with online sexual behavior is recreational, those whose involvement is “at-risk,” and those who are cybersex addicted (those whose lives and functionality are negatively affected by repetitive online sexual activity). This is compounded by the fact that most of the people who are struggling with cybersexual activity who enter psychotherapy choose to talk about their symptoms (depression,...
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