Archives for April, 2014

Sex Addiction Treatment

With No Formal Diagnosis or Treatment Plans, How Can Sex Addiction Exist?

After more than twenty years spent treating, speaking about, and writing about sexual addiction, I’ve heard all the arguments (and then some) both in favor of and against utilizing an addiction-focused model of diagnosis and treatment to identify and help individuals who self-report repetitive, problematic patterns of impulsive and/or compulsive sexual behavior. For the most part,...
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General

Do You Want to be Happy?

What is Happiness?

As a therapist, I often encounter clients who say things like: “I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I have everything I want and yet I never feel satisfied. There’s no joy in my life. Maybe I’m just not a happy kind of person. Maybe I’m just a glass-half-empty person.” When I get hit with that sort of proclamation, I typically respond with a few probing questions: “What...
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General

Understanding LGBTQ-Affirmative Psychotherapy

I don’t understand the concept of having a “gay agenda.” In my belief system caring people closely hold to a “human agenda” of loving, accepting, and helping all people.
What are L, G, B, T, and Q?

We live in a heteronormative society. In other words, heterosexual relationships are the cultural norm, and anything different is, well, different. Yes it is true that things are changing rapidly in parts of the Western...
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Recovery

The Missing Treatment Link – Viewing Addiction as Symptomatic of Disordered Intimacy

Escape versus Connection

Alcoholics and drug addicts don’t drink and use to feel better; they do it to feel less. In other words, addiction is a disease of escape and dissociation from stress and other forms of emotional discomfort. This means that substance abusers don’t get drunk or high because they’re looking to engage with other people, they do it because they’re...
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