Archives for February, 2014

Sex Addiction Treatment

Linking Sexual Shame and Addiction

Flawed, Defective, Unworthy of Love and Happiness

It’s no great secret that most alcoholics, drug addicts, and behavioral addicts live with deeply felt feelings of shame. In fact, shame is nearly always part of the underlying matrix of psychological conditions that can typically lead to addiction. In short, shame leads to extreme emotional discomfort and the gnawing belief that one is inherently flawed, defective,...
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Sex & Technology

As Usual, CES Previews New Pathways to Sexual Pleasure (and Addiction)

For more than 20 years I’ve been involved in the treatment of intimacy disorders and sexual addiction. As such, it’s hardly a surprise to me, as I write about in my book Closer Together, Further Apart, coauthored with Dr. Jennifer Schneider, that two decades of digitally driven access to sexual content and partners has pushed the pedal to the metal on the sex addiction...
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Sex & Technology

Untangling the “Deep Web”

Dread Pirate Roberts

Last October front page headlines brought us the story of Ross Ulbricht, aka Dread Pirate Roberts, alleged mastermind of Silk Road, a “Deep Web” Internet site hawking everything from illicit drugs to fake IDs to deadly weapons. Basically, Silk Road was eBay for illegal goods and services (with its creator, Ulbricht, grabbing a thin slice of every transaction). Trouble is, even when the Silk Road story first broke it...
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Sex & Technology

A Sexicon? What Therapists Need to Know About the Evolving Language of Dating and Mating

Speaking Your Client’s Language

As a therapist specializing in the treatment of sexual disorders, I find that it’s important to keep abreast of new sexnologies and the ever-expanding digital sex lexicon. (In fact, let’s call it a sexicon.) Simply put, if I am to be effective as a therapist it is an absolute necessity that I fully understand what my clients are...
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