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Hypersexual Disorders

Six Reasons People Quit Using Porn

Let me begin this post by stating that I am neither anti-porn nor pro-porn. As a sexologist and addiction treatment specialist, it is not in my job description to judge any mutually consensual sexual behavior, including the appearance in and/or use of pornography. I...

Hypersexual Disorders

Treating Different Categories of Sex/Porn Addicts

In my previous post to this site, I discussed the difference between traditional, trauma-driven sex/porn addicts and a new and rapidly growing subcategory of sex/porn addicts that I refer to as digital-age/conditioned porn addicts. The primary difference between the categories is one group is trauma-based, as we traditionally see with addictions in general, while the other is not. Typically, digital-age/conditioned porn addicts are individuals who start using porn at a young age (often before puberty hits). Over time, they get used to...

General

Digital-Age/Conditioned Porn Addiction: A New Version of an Old Problem

For a long time, therapists treating sex and porn addiction found that all (or at least the vast majority) of their clients had deep and powerful underlying early-life trauma issues—neglect, physical abuse, sexual abuse, covert incest, etc. This put sex and porn addicts very much in line with alcoholics, drug addicts, compulsive gamblers, and the like. In fact, there is a large body of research showing unresolved early-life trauma to be a huge risk factor for later-life addiction (of all types).

Recently, however, sexual...

Addictions

Understanding Porn Addicts: An Interview with Noah Church (Part 3)

Noah Church is a well-known speaker on issues related to porn addiction and the author of Wack: Addicted to Internet Porn, an educational look at how internet porn affects its users. Additionally, he has created the website, Addicted to Internet Porn. On that site he has compiled information learned from his own and others’ experiences with digital pornography—articles, videos, and more. He also offers one-to-one coaching for those who are struggling. Recently, Noah was a...

Porn Addiction

What It’s Like for an Addict to Quit Using Porn? An Interview with Noah Church (Part 2)

Noah Church is a well-known speaker on issues related to porn addiction and the author of Wack: Addicted to Internet Porn, an educational look at how internet porn affects its users. Additionally, he has created the website, Addicted to Internet Porn. On that site, he has compiled information learned from his own and others’ experiences with digital pornography—articles, videos, and more. He also offers one-to-one coaching for those who are...

Pornography

What It’s Like to Be a Porn Addict? An Interview with Noah Church (Part 1)

Noah Church is a well-known speaker on issues related to porn addiction. He is also the author of Wack: Addicted to Internet Porn, an educational look at how internet porn affects its users. Additionally, he has created the website, Addicted to Internet Porn. On that site, he has compiled information learned from his own and others’ experiences with digital pornography. He also offers one-to-one coaching for those who are struggling. Recently, Noah was a guest on my Sex, Love, & Addiction...

Infidelity

Cheating by Any Other Name… Micro-Cheating is Still Cheating

I define infidelity (cheating) as “the breaking of trust that occurs when you keep intimate, meaningful secrets from your primary romantic partner.” Please note that this definition of cheating does not talk specifically about affairs, porn, strip clubs, hookup apps, or any other specific sexual or romantic act. Instead, it focuses on what matters most to a betrayed partner – the loss of relationship trust.

For betrayed partners, it’s not any specific sexual or romantic act causes...

Addictions

Treating Female and Teen Sex Addicts: An Interview with Marnie C. Ferree LMFT, CSAT

Marnie Ferree, my friend, colleague, and recent co-author (Out of the Doghouse for Christian Men: A Redemptive Guide for Men Caught Cheating) has a long-standing national reputation as a leader in the treatment of sexual addiction/compulsivity, particularly as it presents in women. In fact, in 1997 she established the first gender-separate program for female sex and love addicts. This Christian-based program, now called Bethesda Workshops, still exists, and draws participants from across the United States and Canada. Nowadays,...