As a sex therapist, I get this question a lot: How to have a sexual connection that is fulfilling - and more importantly lasting - even after the initial stage of the new relationship energy has passed.
Dry spells among couples in long-term relationships are extremely common.
A lot of things can get in the way of having sex regularly - jobs, commutes, kids and chores. There is no one right answer to the question - how often do happy couples have sex because the number varies for each couple. Some couples have sex multiple times a week and some once a month, and both might report the same level of satisfaction from their relationship.
Feeling pain during intercourse can be extremely debilitating for women and has a very negative impact on their desire to have sex and the ability to get aroused. Women experiencing sexual pain often report feeling defeated by the idea that the pain will only get worse and never get better.
You know the feeling…your partner wants to have sex and you do too but the frustration that comes with not being able to orgasm is something you are tired of experiencing. You feel aroused but just can’t reach orgasm. Perhaps your partner gets frustrated too or feels inadequate as a lover. You begin to believe that there is something lacking in you and feel deprived of ultimate sexual satisfaction.
You are finding yourself more and more curious about kink and would love to explore what it would be like to bring kink into your relationship. The idea of discovering brand new sexual interests and adding variety to your sexual experiences is making you very excited and eager to move forward. But there is one hitch that is making you pull the brakes on your excitement- your partner doesn’t share your curiosity and is not drawn to kink.
Most new parents are blindsided by the steep decline in both the frequency of sex and overall sexual satisfaction. They feel lost and don’t know how to balance their new roles as parents and partners. Often, they tend to take the lack of sex as a personal rejection from their partners. They also feel hopeless and wonder if things will ever get better.
Have you ever felt like you were not in the mood for sex but were able to get yourself aroused and wondered if that is normal? It is completely normal! In fact, it is a very common occurrence especially among women in long-term relationships to get aroused and even reach orgasm but not feel sexual desire.
Premature ejaculation is the most common sexual complaint among men of all ages. The feeling of not being able to control when you want to ejaculate during a sexual encounter can be a big blow to your sexual confidence. The causes of chronic premature ejaculation are largely not understood or clear.
Talking to your partner about opening up your relationship can be very intimidating. People interested in having a discussion with their partner about opening up their relationship fear their partner’s response which could range from outright rejection of the idea to thoughts of ending the relationship.
In the last article, I discussed how opening up a relationship for the wrong reasons could have negative consequences for all partners involved. Couples who find success in opening up their relationship are often driven by the mutual motivation to strengthen their bond as opposed to looking for a way out of the relationship.