7 thoughts on “Narcissists Watch More Porn: Enter Eroticized Rage

  • January 17, 2015 at 10:46 am

    I would like to commend the above article. It has shed a great deal of light on my childhood. I believe my father was a narcissist, especially when involving anything to do with sex. He went to see a whore when my mother was battling her female health issues (1956–she died in 1957–I was 6 years old). At that time, he came home and told my mother what he had done. It devastated her! I found this out from my half-brother about 9 years ago. He explained he came home from school and found her crying and asked her what was going on. After my mother died, my father molested both me and my younger sister (she developed schizophrenia due to this trauma which compounded the loss of our mother). He also had pornographic magazines hidden in certain places, and when she and I would find them, we’d look at them and say, “We don’t want to look like this some day.” It was vulgar to say the least. I believe he was acting out his rage by doing the whore because my mother was so sick, and he felt “entitled” to sex!

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  • March 16, 2015 at 7:17 pm

    Now divorced from someone who was a narcissist, with extreme sexual issues…it was marital rape and sleep rape involved. Not only that, but he would become enraged when i would turn his demands for group sex, into a big No! He somehow or another, in his mind..would magically think, group sex would solve something. It was a lot more than just that, i found out he was doing horrific things as well, that’s when I left him!! he , for God only knows how long…had been sexually molesting women and young girls, while they sleep. When i was first confronted about this, told this by a good friend of mine, who didn’t want to go to the police, I knew she was telling me the truth. I knew what he had done to me..and i was his ‘wife’. things started to make alot more sense, after I discovered his ‘true self”.A few years after I left him, he was charged with doing the exact same thing again,that being molesting her as she slept in the cover of darkness…This being his own niece!Although, he seemed to take more advantage of this situation in the dark of night,I bet it was times when it wasn’t always like that, when he thought he could get away with it safely.
    That is the same man, who had demanded all of my attention and praise, he thought he deserved it all…and then some more. This is the same man, who told me i “was nothing, the scum of the earth..and i didn’t appreciate him or what he done for us!” he’s also the very fist person, i have ever known..never have to have remorse or take any blame for his actions! he was always the victim, in every situation that arose..or he thought had happened.many things “happened’, but it was only in his head..that’s where it happened! These people are monsters, who ruin lives, ruin families for generations…and never, ever care about how they caused any of it! May God bless you and keep you safe!BTW, when I left him, anyone who would dare listen to him, got an ear full. He wanted to discredit me, and my word…to attempt to hide his abuse towards me and others.That’s just what they do!

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  • July 4, 2015 at 9:12 am

    I can see how porn creates parity if the man had a lousy success rate with women. I can even see it as an entitlement issue to be above the rules and con oneself into a better self image.
    What i do not do not understand why these men must to remain flawless in their own minds. My SA will fight to the death to avoid admitting he made a mistake. I believe in couples counselling, it is noted that if one partner wins an argument, the relationship itself loses. One partner must be dominant, right, the other submissive or wrong. (He was into discipline kink.) He does not offer or accept apologies. There is perfection or eternal, extreme imperfection with no gray area in between for mistakes, misunderstandings or negotiation. What drives this irrational, impossible to attain self image? They are intolerant of themselves and others. How did they get so far from reality? I think they should stay in their sexual fantasy worlds if they can’t learn the normal give and take of social interaction.

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    • July 4, 2015 at 9:18 am

      To continue, I believe there is an alcoholism study that predicts sobriety by self forgiveness. For what? What makes this change happen?

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  • May 30, 2016 at 2:19 am

    So in this part shown below, I got confused… Does this mean that the narcissist that you are talking about in this article is not a real narcissist, but just shows narcissistic Behaviour in his reactions to feeling negative about himself or feeling entitled and so watches porn knowing it will hurt his partner, or to make himself feel better?
    So am I not dealing with a real narcissist? There is hope for him?

    “found no correlation between pathological narcissists and porn use. This is consistent with the notion that the person with a narcissistic false self, i.e. a narcissistic defense system is a different breed”

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  • May 12, 2017 at 2:01 pm

    What is underneath the “false narcissist” once you get below that surface narcissism?

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