4 thoughts on “How to Respond to Boundary Violations: Do’s and Don’ts

  • December 2, 2013 at 11:12 pm

    Hmm, I would say the average woman of my generation and older–I’m almost sixty–doesn’t see any of her controlling behaviors as violating personal boundaries. No, she has the absolute right to tell her husband, friends, and relations–even perfect strangers–how to think, talk, and act. They love to manipulate and guilt trip. They think there are absolute rules to behavior–and they know what they are. I have no women friends my age, because they are such controlling bitches. Either that, or they are co-dependent, and want to take care of me, or me take care of them. This is NORMAL behavior for women, and it is destructive and mean-spirited.

    • August 6, 2015 at 9:30 pm

      Its very sad how many weirdos post blogs that support those who violate boundaries. Instead of trying to achieve the very challenging task of reestablishing boundaries.

      As a normal person, I am none too happy with the numbers of “love of bad people blogs.” Shame on you. Your bad Americans.

      Further I have to tell you. If you believe that not returning a toe nail clipper is violating boundaries.

      Your blind.

      I have a father who walked into a car dealership and asked an employee if he could use his car. My father was 10 minutes from a car dealership.

      He felt entitled to use a strangers car.

      That’s boundary assasination is what he did.

      He has emotional issues. He does something bad every day of his life.

      He is beyond help and is somewhat crazy.

      So the next time you pretend that boundaries are looking over at someone when they’re eating food.

      Grow up you jerk.

      My father is a horrible person, who gravitates toward the crazy.

      I hate crazy people.

  • June 13, 2015 at 3:29 pm

    “I used to joke that she was the kind who would say “I’m cold; you need to put on a sweater.”

    I had to laugh when I read that because that’s what my mother used to always say when I was growing up. But it’s not really funny, because she was a controlling, manipulative person who was physically and verbally abusive. She constantly invaded her children’s privacy and it was sheer hell living at home when I was a teenager. I finally escaped at age 20 and ever since then have always set firm boundaries with her. It took years of psychotherapy for me to understand what happened to me and how it affected the relationships I had in my life.

    I am now in my 60’s and she is elderly, but I still maintain firm boundaries with her to protect myself.
    Fortunately, with years of psychotherapy and medication, I have been able to live an independent and productive life and not get caught up in co-dependency.

    • June 13, 2015 at 3:37 pm

      Dear A- you have much to be proud and grateful for. Thanks for sharing this story.


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