7 thoughts on “Growing up around Sex Addiction: Impact on Children Part 2

  • January 3, 2013 at 2:53 pm

    We provide assessment and treatment for the sexually addicted individual, their partner, and their family members. We bring more than 25 years experience in the successful treatment of sexual addiction. http://www.sexualrecoveryservices.com

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    • January 4, 2013 at 2:45 pm

      @Amberm — Can I ask you a question I’ve never been able to get a sex addiction specialist to answer? That is, what percentage of the people who your company assesses do you determine NOT to be sex addicts, but whose sexual functioning is by your determination within normal bounds, or whose sexual compulsivity is attributable to other psychological or situational causes?

      Thanks in advance for answering!

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  • August 25, 2017 at 6:06 pm

    My ex used porno to groom both kids friend of kids etc.
    This is a huge red flag

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  • December 10, 2017 at 3:30 pm

    I am separating from my partner of 13 yes because of his child porn addiction I have an 11 yr old by and 6 yr old girl he has done months of counciling was interfeared with as a child and angrily says so what I watched a bit and played with hookup and sex dating apps I went to counciling I don’t do it any more! He’s been obcesEd for yrs with it I don’t want my children staying over at his place or having friends there what can I do

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    • December 14, 2017 at 8:46 am

      DO NOT let your children go there. He should have SUPERVISED access only. Go see a lawyer as soon as possible, as well as a councillor. These professionals can help you figure out this mess he’s created. Please know that no court will allow him unsupervised access to your children if he’s admitted to viewing child pornography. If he says angrily that he’s not doing it anymore, it’s most likely a lie. Addicts lie, lie, and then lie some more. My heart goes out to you. Take care.

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      • December 15, 2017 at 4:06 pm

        I went and asked the police what I could do for no contact while I seek legal advice I got a trespass after I did it they said we own house can’t enforce it go get a protection order the judge denied it all even a parenting order to have the kids and I’ve been ordered counciling my only proof is his counciling and all the details from that it’s confidential can’t use it the police have a hard drive can take months to process it I had legal aid but I lost so have to pay $240 most scary humiliating serious thing I’ve ever done..he nos what I’m doing and done now too and can come to our house and see the kids when ever he wants

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  • January 21, 2019 at 8:02 pm

    I am interested to see a study that address the gaslighting within the family i.e. mother against children, children against mother, and siblings. Friends, Family, and Strangers against mother. using mother fears to manipulate and control cause herself and other to see her in false light.
    Couple of examples: 1st – sex addict/closeted homosexual/covert narcissists/my spouse would play off my fears that my children would be used/taken advantage of/lusted after/raped or molested by grown men/perverts like I had by so many. Always making comments if I allowed short to shorts, spaghetti straps, or anything else deemed revealing even I would be ask question like are you going to wear that when I was wearing something deemed revealing.
    My daughter in her dark teen period 14 wore a black chockers necklace in Walmart some men were ogling her he made a huge scene to the men (rightfully so I thought) then turn on her about looking like a slut then on me as to what kind of mother would allow her teen daughter to go out looking like whore, embarrassing me her and her 4 sister. Another for 16th birth day my daughter wanted knee high boots I could only find them at adult store, I did not advertise wear I bought them but was chastised as a bad mother for buying her whore boots.
    When I would address money issues lost time belittling or humiliation against me or children he would turn vicious call me a control freak overbearing, pushing him out claims I was over reacting or misleading misjudging the truth causing total confusion till I would lock myself in rooms crying and begging him to leave me alone while he told me children looking at your mother and how she is overreacting or over dramatizing things to make him look bad get sympathy feel sorry for herself, etc. convincing me my children family friends even strangers that I was crazy by time they would notice me going off while never having realized what lead up to my manic state (I now realize was my sanity fighting back)
    Brainwashing the kids to believe I set rules and punishments not because I want to protect them guide them and keep them safe but based on my own messed up past didn’t want them to be happy set to control everything it’s your mother what can I do. while also degrading them telling me they hate me are scared of me always up to no good trying to sneak one over on me. I did in fact become hypervigilant over their sexualities one daughter at 13 was sexting one of her male cousins friends at his request and we both flipped out on her and her sister who allowed her underage sister to use her phone there is so much more here as this manipulation went on more than 20 years. making fun of humiliating gays, Mexican, Orientals, causing arguments between us as I did not want to raise my children with the belief that they get to place such judgement on others hen to find out he was with hundreds of men also causing long term effects.
    He believes that since We did not know of his actions we could not have been adversely affected by them. Much of the research gives him the out it would be wrong of me to share these facts about him with my children would be viewed as acting out of spite such as with the mindful habit program as if his actions and words didn’t shape who the are what they believe in and how they see me and others.

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