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Archives for November, 2012


Sexual Mindfulness: What Goes on in Your Head During Sex?

If you are not a sex addict, your mind may roam to a million different places during sex with a partner, including being completely “into” the experience of your partner.

You may be completely devoid of thoughts or fantasies during sex at some times but have wildly erotic images flashing through your head at other times.

This is what a colleague of mine refers to as the “fuel mix” in sexual...
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Impact on Children Part 1: Genetics of Sex Addiction

As clinicians we know that the sex addict doesn’t fall too far from the family tree.  Or as a friend of mine put it: “Sex addiction comes barreling down the generations like a locomotive!” 

So addictions run in families, but what part of this is due to genetics, to life experiences, and to other personality variables?  And can the genetic research on other addictions be applied to sex addicts?

Researchers have been...
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Illness in a Partner Brings up Intimacy Issues

For sex addicts and addiction prone people generally, the incapacity of a spouse or partner can cause a kind of stress that they are not good at handling and that can put them at risk of relapse.

Illness or disability in one partner of a couple is bound to be stressful or difficult, but it will not necessarily bring about intimacy challenges.  In fact it may bring a...
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Good Porn, Bad Porn

Is there good porn?

Take a look at this statement from an article called The Impact of Internet Pornography on Adolescents: A Review of the Research.

“Increased access to the Internet by adolescents has created unprecedented opportunities for sexual education, learning and growth.”

(Owens, E. W., Behun, R. J., Manning, and Reid, (2012). Journal of Sexual Addiction and Compulsiviy, 19, 99-122)

Writers and researchers seem to feel obligated to acknowledge...
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4 Ways Social Media Can Enable Sex Addiction

If you are reading this you probably grew up before there was any Facebook, or YouTube or Twitter or iPhones.  That all started after the year 2000.

A number of recent articles have presented findings that link the use of social media to a variety of psychological problems including low self-esteem, social aggression and narcissistic personality disorder.

Recent generations have apparently become increasingly narcissistic and have made increasing use of social media like...
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