Archives for September, 2012
The Dangers of Sexual Objectification in Sex Addiction
What is "sexually objectifying" someone, and how is it harmful? In pornography addiction, it's easier to see that the image on the screen is a sexual object rather than a real person. But when are you making a real person into an object? And when are you objectifying yourself?
The term “objectification” has a specific meaning in the psychological study of sexuality and in sex addiction treatment. It means:
“A person’s value comes only from his or her sexual appeal or behavior, to the exclusion...
“A person’s value comes only from his or her sexual appeal or behavior, to the exclusion...
Frequent Porn Addiction Relapse: 3 Tough Things You Must Do
Many recovering sex addicts find it almost impossible to quit internet pornography once and for all. Internet porn is different from other sexual acting out behaviors; it hooks people faster and can have a powerful hold that leads to frequent relapses even if other, more “serious” behaviors have been relinquished.
If you are addicted to sexual massage parlors or to serial affairs then you need to do at least some minimal...
If you are addicted to sexual massage parlors or to serial affairs then you need to do at least some minimal...
Love, Sex and Intimacy After Sex Addiction Recovery
Sex addicts and their partners are sometimes in limbo. Sometimes they feel “Do I even want to be with this person?” Others have trouble visualizing what their relationship will look like post recovery.
Obviously what you had before wasn’t what you thought it was. This leaves a kind of void. “What will a healthy relationship look like?” “How will we behave differently?” “What will sex be like?” An old fantasy is gone and...
Obviously what you had before wasn’t what you thought it was. This leaves a kind of void. “What will a healthy relationship look like?” “How will we behave differently?” “What will sex be like?” An old fantasy is gone and...
The Stigma of Sex Addiction Part 2: What to Tell Others About Your Addiction
“I am a recovering sex addict” is something you may or may not feel comfortable saying to people. On one hand, you may feel guarded about telling people anything, partly because you know that sexually compulsive behavior carries so much stigma and shame. On the other hand, you may decide you want to be open about your recovery. This openness may be received in a variety of ways, and you may...
When Your Ex is a B Movie
Old girlfriends and old boyfriends, ex-wives, ex-husbands, old lovers; all can come back to haunt you whether you are a sex addict or not. But if you are a sex addict or the partner of a sex addict in recovery the drama of an ex can end up being anything from a raunchy summer flick to a horror movie.
The ex-lover can present different kinds of challenges at different stages of recovery. ...
The ex-lover can present different kinds of challenges at different stages of recovery. ...
The Stigma of Sex Addiction Part 1: The “Non-Anonymous” Movement
Membership in Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) is currently growing at a rapid pace in the and abroad, with about a 20% increase in the number of weekly group meetings every year. SAA and other sex addiction support groups like it follow the AA model of self help support groups where the last names of the members are never mentioned and the members protect each other’s confidentiality. Some people...
Are You “Enabling” Someone’s Sexual Addiction?
Let’s be clear—being in a relationship with a sex addict is the last thing you would ever want. Regardless of the behavior he or she is engaging in, including pornography addiction, phone sex, or online affairs or the more overt behaviors like exhibitionism, prostitutes, strip clubs or massage parlors, there is no way you are going to see yourself as “enabling” such behavior.
You are probably going to feel justifiably shocked...
You are probably going to feel justifiably shocked...
Are Sex Addicts Drawn to Cults?
After coming in contact with a number of sex addicts who had at some point belonged to cults, I began to suspect that there were things about sex addicts' makeup that predisposed them to cult membership. Of course not all sex addicts were cult members or vice versa, and this is all purely anecdotal. Still, I was intrigued.
Sex and religious extremism
I first came across this idea in another context. A 2008
Sex and religious extremism
I first came across this idea in another context. A 2008
