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  • October 28, 2015 at 12:30 am

    An excellent point of reference, Rebecca. We do have to rattle a few cages from time to time. For whatever reason, people are slow to react in rethinking how they respond to the mentally ill. It is almost as if we are invisible, dumb and blind. But we hear it all.

    I know I wrote in one of your earlier posts about my dislike of how far we have pushed the political correctness agenda. Sometimes I think it has done more of a disservice than it has to help our acceptance. I hate that we have been caught up in labeling everything. We are so busy to slap a label to an item and then push it into a category. What we need is to look at life as an entity, with many parts, all necessary if we are to find a cohesiveness.

    I love how you work to break down the barriers, the stigma and shame. I am with you a 100%. My approach may differ, but I am one of your fondest cheerleaders. Thank you for standing, for speaking and for simply being you.☕️❤️

    • October 28, 2015 at 7:54 am

      Thank you so much for your daily support! Your comments are always thoughtful, helpful and my favorite, supportive. I appreciate that you take the time to read what I write, think about it, and respond to it. When people give me feedback it can help me develop my ideas further and hopefully write with more experience, and knowledge. Thanks again, I appreciate all you do!

  • October 28, 2015 at 6:19 pm

    One of the largest issues I had struggled with before I was released from the state mental institution (with conditions) back into society was the discrimination occurring at the mental hospital between the men versus the women. The men had more freedom to be out on the grounds; however, the women were not.

    The first year I was there, you would think I had been an attorney in a previous life. I wrote up complaints at least once a month…some of it dealt with the treatment of clients there, some of it dealt with the overall operation and patient’s rights. Let me tell you though, my assertiveness was seen as aggressiveness due to the fact that my crime was violent.

    I was often accused of being “demanding.” It took several years for me to change and realize I didn’t have to be so angry in my reactions to the system. People with power and authority over you will like you better if you simply treat them as equals, whether or not they might consider themselves superior to you.

    That is when the magic can happen. A small light of kindness and gratitude given in exchange for more humane treatment worked much faster than the screaming, slamming the doors, name calling, or just keeping your mouth shut. Yet since I have been out, there have been times where I have been treated like the dirt under the carpet that never gets swept up…

    For example, I recently went to a specialist. My very first visit. My mental health center had already faxed the medication list as well as a visit summary form they needed. So before I could say hello to this Dr. he already knew I had schizophrenia (odds are he wasn’t aware of my crime). He could see I had a mental illness by reading the first six medications I take that are all for my mind.

    I sat barefoot waiting. He comes in with his head down looking at the x-rays. No hello. No Hi, I’m Dr. ____. No how are you doing. Nothing. He just asked where the pain was then ordered some inserts for my shoes and told me to come back in 3 weeks.

    I’m cancelling that appointment because he obviously has the false impression that having a mental illness means you are also mentally challenged. That is a big issue out there. Many people look at us like “weirdoes” who should stay locked up.

    I am proud for my contribution in this fight…when I first was admitted to the hospital some said I would never get out. But I have and I appreciate people such as yourself lobbying for equality. My motto has always been “You are a human. Period” so unless a creepy grey alien comes over for coffee, I will treat you with respect as a fellow human.–sorry a bit winded there! lol…LaVancia

    • October 28, 2015 at 7:08 pm

      Thank you so much for taking the time to tell your story. I always appreciate your perspective. 🙂

    • November 1, 2015 at 6:42 am

      Thank you, Sarah! I appreciate the fact that you read my posts!


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