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5 Tips for Healthy Dating Relationships

“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others.” – Brene Brown

Many of the clients I see in my practice are healing in the aftermath of toxic relationships and regaining a sense of restored confidence in their ability to discern healthy dating partners. When an individual has been impacted by psychological abuse in a romantic relationship, often a survivor experiences cognitive dissonance as a result of gaslighting, silent treatment, projection, and other emotional abuse tactics (Schneider, 2018).  It takes some time for a survivor to reclaim their trust in themselves to select healthy dating partners because of the very nature of deception and manipulation that is a part of an abusive relationship (see my article on coercive control).

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Understanding Coercive Control in Intimate Relationships

"Only a couple of decades ago, society named and recognized the problems of sexual harassment, dating violence, marital rape, and stalking. Coercive control needs to be similarly named and recognized, so we can begin to address it. We all need to learn more, so we can offer the right kinds of support and not allow victims to become isolated." Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD, author of Invisible Chains: Overcoming Coercive Control in Your Intimate Relationship

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5 Tips for Women in the Throes of Perimenopause

"The menopausal transition is actually a profound developmental stage in which unfinished business from the past comes up once again for resolution and healing, so that we can free ourselves from the outmoded beliefs and behaviors of our past. All the issues that weren’t resolved during puberty and early adulthood—such as body image, relationships, vocation, fear of aging, and self-esteem issues—now arise once more to be healed and completed." - Christiane Northrup, MD 

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5 More Tips for BadAss Special Needs Parents

“Motherhood is about raising and celebrating the child you have, not the child you thought you would have.  It’s about understanding that he is exactly the person he is supposed to be and that, if you’re lucky, he just might be the teacher who turns you into the person you are supposed to be.” ~ Joan Ryan

(This is Part 2 in a 2 Part Series)

In my previous post, I began to describe some tips for parents who are in the trenches of navigating the world of special needs caregiving. The following is a continuation of the topic, in the hopes that it provides a bit of a life raft for you amazing caregivers out there. Here goes:

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5 Tips for BadAss Special Needs Parents

"Until you have a child with special needs, you have no idea of the depth of your strength, tenacity and resourcefulness." - Anonymous

I love that quote. And it's true. I speak from the standpoint primarily as a mother of a child with auditory/visual processing challenges (Sensory Processing Disorder) and also from my role of therapist, having counseled many special needs parents in my practice. That being said, the journey is long, hard, and uncertain. There are many twists and turns along the way. Some days feel like things are coming together, and you can finally surface for air. Other days are complete misery.

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Taking Good Care of You: Self-Care and Self-Compassion

"You can search throughout the entire universe for someone that is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, yourself, as much anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." - Buddha

Self-Care Definition: Engaging in an activity (or non-activity) to preserve, protect, maintain or enhance one's mental/physical/spiritual/emotional health. Self-care can also include setting specific boundaries and declining various non-essential obligations. Self-care can be as simple as taking a nap or engaging in deep breathing exercises or as extravagant as a day at the spa. In order for self-care to manifest with regularity, one needs to plan it into their calendar with intention. Otherwise, it's easy to let that priority fall by the way side.

Self-Compassion Definition: "Self-compassion is extending compassion to one's self in instances of perceived inadequacy, failure, or general suffering" (Wikipedia, 2019).  Self-compassion is composed of three main components – self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness (Neff, 2015).

The following self-care/self-compassion ideas are easy to implement. As well, I have provided a list of some great books and resources on embracing taking good care of oneself!  Enjoy! Here's to your health and wellness....