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5 Tips for BadAss Special Needs Parents

"Until you have a child with special needs, you have no idea of the depth of your strength, tenacity and resourcefulness." - Anonymous

I love that quote. And it's true. I speak from the standpoint primarily as a mother of a child with auditory/visual processing challenges (Sensory Processing Disorder) and also from my role of therapist, having counseled many special needs parents in my practice. That being said, the journey is long, hard, and uncertain. There are many twists and turns along the way. Some days feel like things are coming together, and you can finally surface for air. Other days are complete misery.



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Taking Good Care of You: Self-Care and Self-Compassion

"You can search throughout the entire universe for someone that is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, yourself, as much anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." - Buddha

Self-Care Definition: Engaging in an activity (or non-activity) to preserve, protect, maintain or enhance one's mental/physical/spiritual/emotional health. Self-care can also include setting specific boundaries and declining various non-essential obligations. Self-care can be as simple as taking a nap or engaging in deep breathing exercises or as extravagant as a day at the spa. In order for self-care to manifest with regularity, one needs to plan it into their calendar with intention. Otherwise, it's easy to let that priority fall by the way side.

Self-Compassion Definition: "Self-compassion is extending compassion to one's self in instances of perceived inadequacy, failure, or general suffering" (Wikipedia, 2019).  Self-compassion is composed of three main components – self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness (Neff, 2015).

The following self-care/self-compassion ideas are easy to implement. As well, I have provided a list of some great books and resources on embracing taking good care of oneself!  Enjoy! Here's to your health and wellness....



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10 Tips to Lower Holiday Stress

“In times of stress, the best thing we can do for each other is to listen with our ears and our hearts and to be assured that our questions are just as important as our answers.” 

The holidays are notorious for adding stress to the already heavy load for adults struggling to host gatherings, juggle work and family obligations, dodging the flu, not to mention being a triggering time for those impacted by loss and/or trauma. So I conjured up a list of tips to help folks navigate this window of time, which will be over with in a few short weeks, mind you. So strap on your seat belt, hop in your vehicle, and carry on.  Sure and steady, here we go!



Antisocial Personality Disorder

10 Tips for Surviving the Holidays After A Narcissist’s Discard

The holiday time can be difficult, especially if you have recently been "discarded" by a narcissistic romantic partner. Narcissistic abuse recovery most definitely is multi-layered and long-term, punctuated with emotional rawness and resurgences of traumatic grief at milestone times (like holidays and anniversaries, birthdays, etc). There are self care strategies survivors can engage in to ramp up efforts at recovery and healing during the holidays.




Antisocial Personality Disorder

7 Tips to Avoid a Holiday “Hoover” by a Narcissist


 Hoovering: (definition)- noun– The state in which a psychological abuser (typically an individual manifesting symptoms of Narcissistic Personality Disorder or perhaps a blend of other Personality Disorders) returns to attempt to abuse a former source of narcissistic supply (i.e. ego fuel) via text, email, phone or in person (Schneider, 2015). The term “Hoover” refers to the vacuum (by the Hoover brand), as an analogy to suctioning up and reconnecting with prior sources of ego gratification by the narcissistic abuser.