Creativity and Goals: Designing a Vision Board

"You'll never get bored when you try something new. There's really no limit to what you can do." Dr. Seuss

What is a vision board? A vision board is a visualization tool which refers to a board of any sort used to build a collage of words and pictures that represent your goals and dreams (Canfield, J, 2020). As new year is upon us, many people enjoy of designing a vision board to help chart a path for new goals. Basically, a vision board is a visual image, typically a magazine photo collage, incorporating found objects with powerful words or phrases (for example, prosperity, abundance, balance, etc), depicting a visual image of goals to manifest.

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10 Ways to Lower Holiday Stress

“In times of stress, the best thing we can do for each other is to listen with our ears and our hearts and to be assured that our questions are just as important as our answers.” 

The holidays are notorious for adding stress to the already heavy load for adults struggling to host gatherings, juggle work and family obligations, dodging the flu, not to mention being a triggering time for those impacted by loss and/or trauma. So I conjured up a list of tips to help folks navigate this window of time, which will be over with in a few short weeks, mind you. So strap on your seat belt, hop in your vehicle, and carry on.  Sure and steady, here we go!

Beware of the Holiday Hoover

 Hoovering: (definition)- noun– The state in which a psychological abuser (typically an individual manifesting symptoms of Narcissistic Personality Disorder or perhaps a blend of other Personality Disorders) returns to attempt to abuse a former source of narcissistic supply (i.e. ego fuel) via text, email, phone or in person (Schneider, 2015). The term “Hoover” refers to the vacuum (by the Hoover brand), as an analogy to suctioning up and reconnecting with prior sources of ego gratification by the narcissistic abuser.

New Dads Need Support for Mental Health Too

" Dad is and always will be my living breathing superhero." - Bindi Irwin

Although an emphasis on maternal mental health has been more prevalent in recent years, medical communities  often overlook the psychological needs of fathers. It is reported that 1 in 4 new dads experience what is termed Paternal Postnatal Depression (PPND). One study by the American Medical Association reported that 10 percent of new dads develop this condition (2007). And, if the new father's partner also has perinatal/postpartum depression, of those fathers, 50% will develop PPND.

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Narcissism and Psychopathy in the Game of Thrones: The Finale and the Puzzle of Daenerys Targeryen

"You are going to need therapy." Gwendoline Christie (who plays Brienne of Tarth) , After Game of Thrones Season 8


Like many fans of the HBO series, Game of Thrones, I am utterly stunned. The entire series ended last Sunday. And yet here I sit, transfixed and puzzled by the outcome.  Overall, I feel that the last episode tied together what needed to be concluded, although I wouldn't say it was the most graceful or neatest of outcomes on the TV screen.

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When Narcissistic Abuse Occurs in Family Systems

ACON= acronym for Adult Child of Narcissistic (Caregiver/Parent)

Wow, May is here!...How did that happen?... For many mothers, May is a joyful time to embrace and partake of festivities, also honoring seasoned caregivers who play a strong role in nurturing the new generation of nurturers. However, for some childbearing women, motherhood may not be a happy time. Due to a range of reasons , approximately 20% (or more) of all childbearing women may experience perinatal depression or anxiety (PSI, 2017). It is never a woman's fault that she develops perinatal depression/anxiety (PMAD). Rather, a complex interplay of biological, hormonal, neurological, and environmental events can blend to create the perfect storm for an "episode." Fortunately, these eruptions of psychological pain are temporary and can be resolved with excellent care by trained practitioners (therapists, psychiatrists, doulas, lactation consultants, pediatricians, Ob/Gyns) and a supportive tribe of helpers (healthy extended family and friends, etc).

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4 Things You Need to Know About Maternal Mental Health

"Sometimes the strength of motherhood is greater than the natural laws." Barbara Kingsolver

Many of we women grow up with notions of becoming mothers some day. It is how we are socialized; we play with baby dolls and tenderly feed the pretend bottle to our dolly. We visualize what it will be like to be a mother someday, setting a table for tea while zooming off in our tricycle to work. Conceptualizations of motherhood morph and change with the times, and yet here we are, biologically, and in many cases sociologically and psychologically, primed for motherhood.
Enter real live baby, full time job, and perhaps other children and a spouse. There are many pressures on the modern mother to not only attend emotionally to her child(ren) but to also provide for her family. In essence, so many pressures and expectations of motherhood can add tremendous stress to the new mom.