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In the Market for a Shrink?: What To Look For When Searching for a Good Therapist

"Our sorrows and wounds are healed only when we touch them with compassion." - Buddha   I know that I am not alone in the sentiment that the work I do as a psychotherapist is a calling, a deep purpose with tremendous meaning and the potential to help the world continue to spin on its axis. Like others in the profession, I know I feel there is a spiritual element in the healing journey that transcends religious affiliation, technique or training but truly is that which unites humanity in the common innate capability to heal. We, as therapists of integrity, are the "holders" of the space of healing, the witness-bearers of our clients' stories. The people we help have invited us to journey with them for a short time as they work through trauma, loss, grief, depression. I say in all seriousness that it truly is a deep honor and privilege to bear witness and assist clients to ascend to new chapters of health and wellness.   


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Taking Good Care of You: Self-Care and Self-Compassion

"You can search throughout the entire universe for someone that is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, yourself, as much anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." - Buddha Self-Care Definition: Engaging in an activity (or non-activity) to preserve, protect, maintain or enhance one's mental/physical/spiritual/emotional health. Self-care can also include setting specific boundaries and declining various non-essential obligations. Self-care can be as simple as taking a nap or engaging in deep breathing exercises or as extravagant as a day at the spa. In order for self-care to manifest with regularity, one needs to plan it into their calendar with intention. Otherwise, it's easy to let that priority fall by the way side. Self-Compassion Definition: "Self-compassion is extending compassion to one's self in instances of perceived inadequacy, failure, or general suffering" (Wikipedia, 2019).  Self-compassion is composed of three main components – self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness (Neff, 2015). The following self-care/self-compassion ideas are easy to implement. As well, I have provided a list of some great books and resources on embracing taking good care of oneself!  Enjoy! Here's to your health and wellness....


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10 Tips to Lower Holiday Stress

“In times of stress, the best thing we can do for each other is to listen with our ears and our hearts and to be assured that our questions are just as important as our answers.”  ― Fred Rogers, The World According to Mister Rogers: Important Things to Remember   The holidays are notorious for adding stress to the already heavy load for adults struggling to host gatherings, juggle work and family obligations, dodging the flu, not to mention being a triggering time for those impacted by loss and/or trauma. So I conjured up a list of tips to help folks navigate this window of time, which will be over with in a few short weeks, mind you. So strap on your seat belt, hop in your vehicle, and carry on.  Sure and steady, here we go!


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Holiday Healing When Trauma Triggers Surface

“After a traumatic experience, the human system of self-preservation seems to go onto permanent alert, as if the danger might return at any moment.”  ― Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror Definition of Relational Trauma: (Quote from rondoctor.com, the website of Ron Doctor, P hD): Complex or Relational Trauma can arise from prolonged periods of aversive stress usually involving entrapment (psychological or physical), repeated violations of boundaries, betrayal, rejection and confusion marked by a lack of control and helplessness.  Common situations include being bullied, harassment, physical, sexual and emotional/verbal abuse, domestic violence and substance abuse, stalking, threats, separation and loss, unresolved grief and neglect (Doctor, R., 2017).    


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10 Tips for Surviving the Holidays After A Narcissist’s Discard

The holiday time can be difficult, especially if you have recently been "discarded" by a narcissistic romantic partner. Narcissistic abuse recovery most definitely is multi-layered and long-term, punctuated with emotional rawness and resurgences of traumatic grief at milestone times (like holidays and anniversaries, birthdays, etc). There are self care strategies survivors can engage in to ramp up efforts at recovery and healing during the holidays.


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7 Tips to Avoid a Holiday “Hoover” by a Narcissist

 Hoovering: (definition)- noun– The state in which a psychological abuser (typically an individual manifesting symptoms of Narcissistic Personality Disorder or perhaps a blend of other Personality Disorders) returns to attempt to abuse a former source of narcissistic supply (i.e. ego fuel) via text, email, phone or in person (Schneider, 2015). The term “Hoover” refers to the vacuum (by the Hoover brand), as an analogy to suctioning up and reconnecting with prior sources of ego gratification by the narcissistic abuser.


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Riding the Waves of Grief through the Holiday Season

"Should you shield the valleys from the windstorms, you would never see the beauty of their canyons."- Elizabeth Kubler-Ross   I so admire Latinx culture, specifically the emphasis on celebrating the lives of their deceased loved ones on a special day, Dia de los Muertos. November 2 marks this tradition, originating in Mexico, to honor ancestors by creating altars with cherished photos, favorite foods, candles, and sugar skulls. Family members gather at grave sites and altars in the home to share stories of their loved ones who have transitioned to the next place, finding comfort in family support through holding the space to narrate the story of their ancestors impact on their lives.  A general spirit of celebration and remembrance is the emphasis, including laughter and camaraderie. Death is not feared. It is merely a passage to a different phase of transcendence.