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Why (Almost) everyone is Happy about Same-Sex Marriage

On Sunday morning I flew back from Orlando to New York, after attending the World Congress on Positive Psychology. To my good fortune, the airplane had TV service, so I could spend the two hours staring at the screen embedded in the seat in front of me. Across all channels, everyone was talking about the US Supreme Court’s ruling about same-sex marriage. Clearly big news, summarizing a pendulum of eleven years of legislation and court deliberations, which started back in 2004 in Massachusetts. It was not surprising that this was the most-discussed topic of the hour, yet I found it interesting that it was not only reported, but almost unanimously celebrated. Instead of the typical balanced and analytical news, the programs reported outbursts of festivity in different parts of the country, weaving in interviews with senators and state officials from both sides of the political spectrum, most of which congratulated the decision and supported it.

Even more surprising was the fact that the on-screen celebration was not limited to programming. In between the programs, a commercial for a known pharmaceutical brand talked about families, showing same-sex couples. Unusual for a commercial company to take a clear supportive stance on a controversial topic. When I arrived at Newark airport, all newspaper stands showed the rainbow flag flying in different places in the country – with no mention of controversy or debate.

How is it that a topic that was deeply divisive for years becomes so vastly supported, almost unanimously perceived as a victory? The psychological explanation is simple:

The ruling is a statement that reflects the country’s perspective about the rights and the acceptance of all minorities, and all of us are minorities in one way or another. There is always some aspect about each of us that is at the tail of the statistical curve. Some of us are much fatter or thinner than average, much taller or shorter, talk with an accent, very shy or very loud. And, belonging to a minority group is always a source of stress, because minority status is focused on the differences between individuals, resulting in dehumanization, causing stress and health risks. If we can feel comfortable with the way we are different, our well-being improves. The German poet Heinrich Heine said that “where they have burned books, they will end in burning human beings.” But the opposite is also true: in a place where no book is burned, everyone feels safe. As of Friday we live in a society where each of us can feel comfortable with the way he/she deviates from average. This, in turn, gives all of us, however we stand on same-sex marriage, a boost of well-being.

 

Why (Almost) everyone is Happy about Same-Sex Marriage


Ran Zilca

Ran Zilca is a research scientist, author, entrepreneur, and coach. In 2006 Ran founded a company called Signal Patterns (acquired by bLife, Inc) that pioneered the new field of Transformative Technology and the debut of mobile behavioral interventions, working with leading scientists and partners like Sonja Lyubomirsky, Phil Zimbardo, Stephen Covey, and Deepak Chopra. Earlier in his career, before his involvement in psychology and transformation, Ran had lead various R&D projects with organizations like IBM Research and the Israeli military, focused on algorithmic research and data science. Ran has published published numerous scientific papers and patents. He is a senior member (elected) of the Institute of Electrical and Electronics Engineers, and a member of the Society for Personality and Social Psychology. Ran believes that you can turn your life around by following a set of scientifically-validated daily exercises. He developed such a process together with partners in the research community, and followed it in his personal life. The result was a 6,000 miles solo motorcycle ride, a new book, the sale of his company, and a move to a different continent.


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Zilca, R. (2015). Why (Almost) everyone is Happy about Same-Sex Marriage. Psych Central. Retrieved on October 24, 2019, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/ride-life/2015/07/why-almost-everyone-is-happy-about-same-sex-marriage/

 

Last updated: 1 Jul 2015
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