5 thoughts on “Why Is It Harder for Women to Orgasm Than Men?

  • October 26, 2011 at 2:43 pm

    Women are interested in a relationship, not just sex. How can anyone orgasm for a stranger? There is an emotional element to sex. I’m female and I have to know and like the person to enjoy myself. It is really important to be friends with someone first and then sex is more fun, otherwise it is just obligation and it isn’t fun for the woman.

  • October 27, 2011 at 12:46 am

    Ultimately, orgasm is something that sometimes, people do best by themselves, for themselves. There’s an entire industry grown up around the fact that people can’t get off, when they get it on. And, I think both women and men are affected by similar things as they age, that tend to put a damper on the old love life. This story talks about knowing your partner, and being able to relax. Well, if you think about the prevalence of various forms of V.D. in society, maybe ignorance of your bedmate might be something worth getting a little uptight about, especially if there’s signs that they ‘make the rounds’ as it were. You might end up with a little post-coital ‘present’ that you didn’t want. For women, that goes double with the issue of unwanted pregnancy. Still others get uptight about sex and relationships for religious reasons, or on account they’ve had bad experiences in the past. Finally, some people just don’t enjoy it, period, experience physical discomfort, or performing the act really just isn’t that pleasurable. I think we always dream of that perfect partner, and having wild, mind-blowing, passionate, muscle-cramping, highly adventurous multi-orgasmic encounters like one might find in various forms of adult literature, but in counterbalance you also have to say, ‘promises, promises’, and that at the end of the day, what you’re doing is Nature’s way of making more people, and maybe you could/should find a different pastime, which is what most people do once they’ve had a kid, or get old n fat, that kind of thing. We don’t stay attractive, virile teenagers forever, and cologne and perfume can only do so much to cover beer guts, body odor, wrinkles, and so forth. Still, people will perpetually pursue That Magical Experience, some to the extent of frequenting bordellos or the beds of other people’s spouses, and that’s where you kind of have to ask if the internet and aforementioned literary sources might not be a better outlet for all that pent-up energy…

  • October 28, 2011 at 11:15 pm

    Did I just read something written in 1983?

  • October 31, 2011 at 8:47 am

    Clitoral shaft is the key to get an orgasm for female.

    After baffling biologists for decades, female orgasm remains an evolutionary mystery. Those scientists who claimed that only the clitoral can give women orgasm were just only half right, not exactly correct. They affirmed the importance of the clitoris for female orgasm, but they all put attentions on the clitoral glans, and ignored an important position-clitoral shaft. Few scientists have studied the role of clitoral shaft during female orgasm, so that I can’t find enough information about it on Google. It’s no wonder, all people are focusing on the vagina, and no one pays any attention to a hidden organ.
    The clitoral shaft is attached to the glans, just underneath the surface of the skin. The shaft is a round segment of spongy erectile tissue which can quickly fill with blood and thus cause the entire organ to stiffen and increase in size, and is very sensitive like the glans. It feels like a hard ridge about one-half to one inch long, and it rises toward the pubic mound for a short distance.

    This hard ridge about one inch long is the key of female orgasm,and stimulation to the clitoral glans is not enough to an orgasm. In a traditional sexual intercourse, men usually took the initiative and dominated the sex, and they basically focused on the vagina puncture. Today, lots of men really want the women who they love to get female orgasm, then they use their mouths and fingers to stimulate women’s clitoral glans and vulva, but unfortunately only these methods are not enough to an orgasm. First, oral sex for women is no tricks, no direction, no rhythm, and men just wantonly play it, but ignore the important clitoral shaft which should be rubbed along its direction with great intensity and certain rhythm. Secondly, orgasm is a result of everyone’ initiative whatever male or female. The women must control the intensity and rhythm to the clitoral, and then you can get a real orgasm like sudden release of sexual tension.

    According to my research, rubbing the root of clitoral shaft is enough, when you are about to an orgasm. After a real orgasm, women will have refractory period and fall asleep immediately.

  • December 9, 2011 at 9:35 am

    Never had that problem….never did NOT have an…….O…


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