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7 Ways “Toxic Masculinity” Traumatizes Men and Boys

Toxic masculinity is a worldview that, in varying degrees, cajoles men and boys to reject what is human inside them and others, and to war against certain human traits, such as empathy and caring, throughout their lives to prove their "masculinity" and claim "entitlements" to violate and exploit others rights.

Men are human beings however. Forming compassion-based...


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The Ford-Kavanaugh Hearings and 3 Links Between Sexual Assault, Narcissism and the “Cult of Masculinity”

The entire world witnessed, if they watched the Ford-Kavanaugh hearings closely, how the "boys will be boys club" works strategically to legitimize inexcusable acts of sexual assault against women -- which in the club's view, is an entitlement of those in positions of authority, in general.

The pattern is always the same. She reveals sexual assault happened; takes a lie detector test. Under oath, he denies and plays victim. No thorough investigation of...


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12 Ways Narcissists or Sociopaths Reveal a Pathological Intent to Harm




Truth, common sense and wisdom are targets narcissists intentionally attack, thus the need know what tactics narcissists use, and how to protect our minds and hearts from these is real.

The term “narcissist” has become commonplace, too often used to mislabel persons who are demanding or trigger us, we may not agree with or approve, or even more likely, may be targets of narcissistic blame-shifting themselves. 



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3 Paths to Clear the Way to Ending Mass Shootings


Mass shooters are immune to kindness. So are school bullies.

Isabella, a survivor of the Parkland shooting, learned this the hard way. She was nice to a boy who bullied her, and then turned into a mass shooter that ended 17 classmates’ lives several years later.

Lesson learned? Being nice to bullies won't stop them from acting out inner rage impulses to hurt others.

This doesn’t mean we should not be kind.

It means that we must develop our...


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15 Reasons Narcissists (and Sociopaths) Lie


Narcissism needs to be redefined. Its premise is a virtual attack on truth. Telling lies to con and exploit others with no remorse forms the basis for the criminal mind, or antisocial personality disorder (APD), also known as sociopathology or psychopathology.

Because of the overlap in key traits, sociopathology can be regarded as  a more severe form of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD); however, there is a lot overlap. Both lack empathy or regard for the feelings...


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7 Insidious Goals of Gaslighting


Gaslighting is a form of narcissist abuse distinct from widespread use of words to attack and hurt another as a result of frustration and conflict. It is perhaps one of the most insidious tactics of emotional manipulation because of it's intent to disturb a target's sense of self and agency, safety and wellbeing, sanity and common sense.

This overarching goal of gaslighting to intentionally disrupt any attempt of victims to have a voice...


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Dear Narcissist, Stop, You’re on the Wrong Track!

This post consists of a letter from this therapist, which is addressed to those that meet the criteria for narcissistic or antisocial personality disorders, NPD or APD respectively. Ideally, an NPD or APD would read this message, and to some degree, embrace and seek professional help to change the serious patterns of abuse they intentionally use to traumatize others for their own gain.

In reality, persons with these disorders are not likely to...


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Your Self-Talk, Taking Back Your Mind From Crippling Lies of Narcissist

When women share their experiences of being in a relationship with a narcissist, they discover that, while the details of each relationship differ — the words and tactics that narcissists use are all so bizarrely the same!
It’s as if they consult one another, work from the same playbook, share game plans. The stuff that comes out of their mouths is, well, the same.

It’s like a secret language, except it’s not a...


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5 (Good) Reasons to Leave a Narcissist


It's not easy to leave a narcissist. Focusing on awakening from the fog is a vital step to taking the reins to restore inner sense of agency and confidence. You need mental clarity to assess the situation you're in, and prioritize taking necessary actions, in this case, to open the cage door of a toxic relationship, and realize you've had wings to fly away along ... at minimum to fly to safety emotionally, inside,...


Conscious Lifestyle

20 Quotes for a Mindfully Happy and Healthy New Year!

Happiness is more than getting what you want. A happy and healthy New Year begins with you. It's an inside job.

It's realizing how grateful you are for the blessings you have, and how essential this is to energize an ever brighter future.

A list of resolutions can be great. If it hasn't worked in the past, why not something new?

How about an overarching resolution -- happiness -- to realize what you're already hardwired to, and...