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3 Romanticized Fantasies That Make Women Easy Prey for Narcissists

If you're reading this post, you may be seeking to understand and heal yourself from a present or past experience with a narcissist.**

You should know, one of the biggest hurdles, in restoring your sense of self and sanity, lies in letting go of certain disbeliefs and fantasies you were socialized to cling onto as a woman.

The narcissist consistently tells you who he is in what he does. Repeatedly.

He reveals his aims in the heartless actions and...

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5 Gifts to Inoculate Yourself Against the Toxic Effects of a Relationship With a Narcissist

If you've experienced the trauma of being in a relationship with a narcissist**, the most amazing gifts you can give yourself cannot be bought or wrapped. They are the gifts of self-healing, taking back and guarding your heart and mind, with a focus on restoring your sense of feeling human again, connecting to your life and self, your feelings and thoughts, wants and dreams, and so on, with a mindful awareness...

Emotional Mastery

10 Beliefs of Happy and Successful People

Your happiness is not something to take lightly. Your health, even key relationships, depend on your ability to overall feel good about yourself and life.

Advances in neuroscience methodology in the last few decades have allowed us to study success and happiness. Unlike success, happiness is not a goal. You, and every aspect of you, is wired for happiness.

Think of happiness as you would a trusted friend, and guide, one that can make facing challenges and realizing goals,...

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Why a Narcissist’s Love is Not Love (Ever)

In a ground-breaking primer on love and personal growth in relationships, The Road Less Traveled, published in the late 1970s, best-selling author and psychiatrist Scott Peck gave us some of the best advice at the time on what genuine love is and isn't. And this clarity, arguably, has great value today if you have been or currently are in a relationship with a narcissist, more specifically, to arm yourself against the love-bombing attacks on bottom...

Conscious Lifestyle

7 Ways To Use Laughter to Lower Stress

Laughter is an effective stress management strategy. It's also a free, boosts health and its benefits are available to make you feel better at any time.

Laughter works to lower the levels of stress hormones, such as epinephrine (adrenaline) and cortisol, in the bloodstream, by increasing the levels of health-boosting hormones such as endorphins, dopamine and oxytocin. A short period of laughter can literally boost your happiness in the moment, with lingering effects of feeling good throughout the...

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3 Reasons Sexual Assault Is Rooted In Powerlessness, Not Power

Sexual assault is never about sex. Like mass shootings and domestic violence, even pedophilia, these acts are not about power — rather a set of behaviors linked to disordered individuals that at minimum need to be identified for treatment.

These acts are rooted in powerlessness, not power. Why?
1. Acts that exhibit an intent to violate another with disregard for their rights or agency are rooted in a pathological "neediness" for a false sense of...

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5 Supremacist Ideals (Lies) a Narcissist-Sociopath Gets Hooked On

Like an addict, a narcissist-sociopath** numbs the pain of feeling human with quick-fix, temporary feel-goods. A person that meets the criteria for antisocial personality disorder (APD), is hooked on illusions of power over others, regards his skilled use of tools of deception and lies, along with psychological violence as proof of his superiority. Like all quick-fix feel goods, however, these activities never satisfy, only intensify the cravings for more. Desperately, his fear of...

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7 Ways “Toxic Masculinity” Traumatizes Men and Boys

Toxic masculinity is a worldview that, in varying degrees, cajoles men and boys to reject what is human inside them and others, and to war against certain human traits, such as empathy and caring, throughout their lives to prove their "masculinity" and claim "entitlements" to violate and exploit others rights.

Men are human beings however. Forming compassion-based...