Why Women Are Often MisLabeled Narcissists, 1 of 2

The term “narcissist” is commonly misapplied. Too often, the label is used to describe persons that trigger upsetting emotions in us at home or work, for example, those we judge as intense or demanding, easily frustrated or angered, and so on, or persons we judge as over-focused on looks or success, seeking attention or the spotlight.

These and other traits add confusion to identifying narcissism, as does the use of terminology such as "healthy narcissism" by...

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4 Steps to Amp Up the Synergy of Heart-Power in Your Relationship

Words are powerful. They activate emotion states, or neurotransmitters. This means words have the power, to the extent they activate your imagination, one of the most powerful capacities, to shape your life and relationships.

When it comes to persons we cherish, for example, the power of words can be used to either build or tear down.

If you understand power as a perception, and your words as pure emotion-activating power that, accordingly, manipulate...

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5 Ways to Know If His Love is “Real” or Narcissistic-Illusion

Love is an ongoing process of living deeply,, unquestionably the most profound of all human experiences that brings meaning to our lives. A couple relationship is a unique balancing act, in which two separate beings agree to engage their power, as partners, ideally to mindfully grow the capacity of each to love and recognize, honor and nurture the presence of both self and the other -- as both are works of works...

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7 Child Predator Patterns for #MeToo to Consider By Using “The Tale” As a Case Study

In an Emmy-nominated film, The Tale, award-winning filmmaker Jennifer Fox presents her own #MeToo story of being groomed and sexually abused at age 13 by her athletic coach.

The film tastefully reveals exposes the painful process Fox experienced, as an adult, forced by circumstances to reassess her abuse as a child, and the many challenges she faced that allowed her to back her mind and sense of self and reality. Prompted by a supportive mother that...

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5 Reasons Violence and Narcissism Are Not Gender Neutral

Despite misinformation campaigns with political agendas, and an increasing number of Hollywood movies and TV series over the years, in which gorgeous actresses star in roles portraying women as sadistic, conniving, ruthless killers, decades of research continue to reveal: heartless acts of violence are not gender neutral.

Neither is narcissism**, a set of behaviors associated with callous acts and heartlessness.

It's vital for men and women alike to understand the cultural forces that promote and legitimize violence...

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7 Reasons a Narcissist Engages in Hoovering

Hoovering is a behavior pattern associated with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), and its more extreme manifestation on the spectrum, antisocial personality disorder (APD) or psychopathology.

Narcissists** are known to make contact with one or more past partners, or perhaps all, after a period of separation or when they perceive them as getting on with their life.

What sets hoovering apart from the otherwise "normal" behavior of contacting an old friend are the ruthless intentions.

Here are 7 narcissistic reasons a narcissist engages in...

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15 Goals of Couples Therapy

Couples therapy is designed to bring out the best in you and your partner, strengthening the quality of your relationship, as a point of balance, allowing you to deal with issues in ways that support you to grow as individuals and a couple.

An emotionally fulfilling couple relationship is very much within reach, yet involves the willingness of both to stretch, and get to know and see, love and value both self and the other as...

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3 Romanticized Fantasies That Make Women Easy Prey for Narcissists

If you're reading this post, you may be seeking to understand and heal yourself from a present or past experience with a narcissist.**

You should know, one of the biggest hurdles, in restoring your sense of self and sanity, lies in letting go of certain disbeliefs and fantasies you were socialized to cling onto as a woman.

The narcissist consistently tells you who he is in what he does. Repeatedly.

He reveals his aims in the heartless actions and...