8 thoughts on “Seven Toxic Thinking Patterns to Break – How Pseudo “Feel-Goods” Trick Your Brain (2 of 2)

  • August 2, 2011 at 1:57 pm

    This is so useful for me to use for myself and share with my friends and clients. Joy and Liquid Love with exceptional Well Being to you. April

    • August 2, 2011 at 5:52 pm

      So appreciate the exceptionally positive wishes and support, April! Thanks for stopping by and commenting!

  • August 4, 2011 at 12:23 pm

    Thank you for this list and review. I am glad I went hunting in my newsletter and found it. I am one of three sisters, a new arrival in town where the other two ive. We really need to understand these toxic “automatic defaults” ( my term) as our communication gets all mired up in these pitfalls.
    It is hard when only one or two out of three is into self awareness and or directed healthy thinking. I sure look forward to finding a therapist on a sliding scale who I could see about this subject.

    • August 8, 2011 at 1:42 pm

      Thanks for stopping by and commenting, tinapitta. It’s not easy to regulate these reactive patterns, especially with key persons in our lives. It does help to talk to a professional. Keep me posted, and best wishes for best results with your sisters .. and a lot of strength and wisdom to replace the “automatic defaults”!

  • July 13, 2015 at 10:00 am

    My fear based belief in my recent 2 year old relationship is that my partner’s bad habits – messiness, clutter, health problems will overwhelm me and I better protect myself by not getting emotionally close to him so I will not get attach to him and by not attaching to him can be in control. I can’t live in disorganized and messy environment and I’m fearful that eventually if I do get emotionally attached I will put myself in a situation I will not be able to live with. Also I am concern that my partner is using an easy way through medication to take care of his health issues instead changing his stressful work condition which he believes he can’t do anything about it for the next three years. I fear that by not doing something about a stressful situation his health problem may get worse. I can see how this fear based belief can poison my otherwise great relationship.

    Could you share how would more healthful, life energizing thinking patterns look like?

  • December 24, 2018 at 2:01 am

    What a clear, insightful, and thought-provoking piece. I particularly appreciate the breakdown of the toxic-thinking patterns, which I recognized in myself all-too-easily.

    Thanks for sharing, and for offering a way forward.

    • January 6, 2019 at 8:18 am

      Thank you for commenting, much appreciate your feedback. Best wishes,


Join the Conversation!

We invite you to share your thoughts and tell us what you think in this public forum. Before posting, please read our blog moderation guidelines. A first name or pseudonym is required and will be displayed with your comment. Your email address is also required, but will be kept private. (Please note that we use gravatars here, which are tied to your email address.) A website/blog/twitter address is optional.

Leave a Reply to Athena Staik, Ph.D. Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *