4 thoughts on “3 Romanticized Fantasies That Make Women Easy Prey for Narcissists

  • January 27, 2019 at 2:25 pm

    This post was a real eye opener for me. I have read so many other posts but this one and how it is integrated with romantasisdd fantasies is the missing piece which made me truly see.. I was involved with a narcissist for. 9 years. Since I met him He was claiming to be getting a divorce. During this time I had to be understanding of why he cannot stay over. Why his kids can’t interact with me. I couldn’t call him at night as he said his x wife would flare up and he is just prorecting me. This obviously started becoming truly exhausting for me. Then he ended up having an affair with someone else for about four months. I fou d out he apologized and I agreed to try again. A day later he pitched up at her house. I found out and he was apparently set up by her. He promised. To marry her and they would get a place of his own after the divorce is through.. She found out about me and said he said he just knew me for a month. He promised me all of those thi gs word for. Word. He promised the fantasy to 2 woman while sti going through a divorce with a 3rd woman. The divorce happened but he chose to live there playing the victim of being stuck and how does he get out. I came across his texts with her o. The 31stJan. In there he spoke about them sleeping together in The last 3 weeksr. He was obsessive about her whereabouts all whilst sending me. LovinG messages simultaneously. These messages were done on the day he proposed to me and asked my whole family to be there. Between 3:30pm and 11:45 he had sent about 60 messages whilst I. My family’s company and mine.. He has been promising g me the fantasy of marriage and a good life over the last few weeks since we broke up. Some. Parr. Of me. Was starting to believe him after speaking to him tonight but reading this post removed the last part of my romantic veil… He Wil do. It again… This article is truly so real.

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    • January 28, 2019 at 9:28 am

      Thank you for sharing your experience, SIY, and letting me know the post helped clear some of the fog narcissists produce in women’s minds. It’s a path of healing and restoration, continue to give this gift to yourself. If you do not have professional support with an experienced therapist in helping you to take back your mind and body, heart and soul, please consider (for guidance on this, please send email to info@drstaik.com, thanks). In meantime keep studying and reading, here’s one book to start with:

      Psychopath Free : Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships With Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other Toxic People
      https://www.amazon.com/Psychopath-Free-Expanded-Emotionally-Relationships/dp/0425279995/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1548677335&sr=8-2&keywords=psychopath+free

      Here are a few of my other posts on the topic that you may find helpful as well:

      What It Means When a Narcissist Says I Love You:

      Narcissistic Abuse and the Symptoms of Narcissist Victim Syndrome

      Five Gifts to Inoculate Yourself Against the Toxic Effects of a Relationship with a Narcissist

      Best wishes to you for continued awakening and taking back your mind, restoring sense of self and dignity. Dr S

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  • January 29, 2019 at 6:58 pm

    Athena…thank you so much for this article. I feel it should be required reading for all women (I’m going to circulate it). I was just talking with a female friend about how hard we think women work to protect men and the whole toxic masculinity culture. Your work here is a brilliant add into the conversation of male and female relating and of course pathological relationships.

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    • January 30, 2019 at 7:42 am

      Much appreciate this feedback Tammy. It is not easy to break the hold of these fantasies as they are also another form of “divide and conquer” with fear-activating tactics … yes, we need to compassionately reach out to one another and then also reach out to men to stop participating in their own dehumanization (the cult of toxic masculinity is at best emotionally debilitating to our sons, brothers, fathers ..) Best wishes

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