2 thoughts on “The Mindset of Narcissism, an Off-Balance Addictive Relating Pattern, 1 of 2

  • May 4, 2017 at 5:30 am

    I think you do a major disservice to present the narcissist/ codependent relationship in strict gender roles. There are lots of men being emotionally if not physically abused by women in relationships. I was one.

    • May 12, 2017 at 7:44 am

      Thanks for commenting, shell of a man, and pointing out that there are cases in which men experience physical abuse. There are exceptions, granted. Regardless the gender, however, narcissists hold a a particular mindset based on might-makes-right norms, get the other before they get you, and attempt to impose this reality as a norm for all around them to follow. They don’t believe in love relationships, partnerships, collaboration, and those who are kind to the “weak” disgust them. To identify the “real” narcissist in a couple relationship can be confusing, as partners of narcissists are emotionally distraught and mirror back the abuse, emotional or physical, that they experience in adult or perhaps from early childhood relations. I stand by my belief that narcissism and codependency are gender-specific socialized ideals for men and women respectively. Thanks again for commenting.


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