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10 Habits to Make Happiness a Lifestyle

Life is so fascinating. There’s always something to learn and do, and there's unfinished business, a situation to resolve, a habit to break, a relationship to start or improve, something to see in new and different ways. It’s part of feeling alive.

Or is it? Does thinking about challenges or a relationship issues turn your mind to thoughts of lack? To feeling stuck, unhappy, stacking one negative on top of another? If so, your thoughts may be scaring you into...
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7 Reasons Forgiveness Is Your Nature

Forgiveness, most agree, is the right thing to do. It's also an inner ability to access certain resources and cultivate the strength and courage needed to choose to take the higher road.  And the higher road, well, that's where you find wisdom, health, happiness, peace of mind, among other priceless gifts.

Arguably, forgiveness is a practice that is key to reaching your human potential, essentially, who you are.

There are at least 7 reasons why forgiveness can be described as integral to human nature:
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A Holiday Gift to Self, 3 Goals to Emotion Regulation Mastery (Feel Optimally!)


Emotion mastery is a learned ability to navigate challenging emotions and moments, and to feel optimally, at least enough to make choices you'll be happy with later.

It's a vital skill, also known as emotional intelligence.

Emotions are powerful energies, and upsetting emotions in particular, can either be our greatest teachers, when we understand them as action signals to help us grow — or our worst enemies, when we fight or seek to avoid or numb them.

"Love cures people, both...
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7 Steps to Declare Freedom From Energy-Zapping Thoughts (EZTs)

Thoughts are powerful shapers of our lives, period. They shape our relationships too, even our character. If our thoughts are limiting, however, they are also energy zapping. Do you have the reins of your thoughts?

It's no longer theory, it's science.

Our habitual "self talk" seems to form a meaning-laden story that continually "tells us" who we are, how we should relate to our self, others, and life.

This running commentary, based on findings in the fields of cognitive and...
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Thanksgiving, Why Your Health and Happiness Depend On it

It’s that time of year again. The day of giving thanks is here, and with it, a reminder to reflect on the blessings in our lives.

How refreshing this holiday can be, pondering the beautiful truth it symbolizes!

Thanksgiving draws many like a magnet.

Let's “give thanks more often," you hear some say, while others chime in with, “why wait a year?"

Good question, why do most tend to wait for this time of year to...
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7 Steps to Emotionally Heal After Leaving (or Living With) a Narcissist

Once you accept that you’re entangled in a love relationship with a narcissist, you have a key decision to make, either to: remain in the relationship for now, or leave. Or perhaps you've already left, yet keep getting entangled in the narcissist's hoovering tactics.

In either case, give yourself time to cultivate a new understanding of how different the narcissist's worldview is from yours, to identify and avoid the mind game traps they set, and in general, to practice new...
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7 Questions to Deepen Your Conversations and Relationship, 2 of 2


Continuing from Part 1, here are four more key questions that invite couples to deepen their relationship and conversations. The questions were adapted from an article by inspirational poet, David Whyte, titled 10 Questions That Have No Right to Go Away.

The four questions are as follows:
4. Do I know how to be present in the moment, yet also remain connected to what I've learned from past experiences ... as...
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7 Questions to Deepen Your Conversations and Relationship, 1 of 2

An inspiring poet and lecturer in areas, among others, of psychology and business leadership, David Whyte notes in his article, 10 Questions, that certain questions, the ones that have to do with the person we are becoming, should be held dear to our heart, as much or more than good answers.

Why? Because questions guide the internal conversations we have with ourselves, and others, and thus not only shape our identity, but also our behavior patterns...
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Codependency and Narcissism: 10 Similar-Yet-Distinct Patterns

On the surface the dance of narcissism and codependency seems to be between two complete opposites; and, in many ways, they are. To see what's really happening in a couple relationship with these dynamics, however, it helps to look at 10 similar yet distinct patterns in their dance steps.

An awareness of these patterns gives us a glimpse of what is really going on to keep both addicted, and stuck repeating the same old dance...
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