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Redefining Narcissism as a Love Deficit

Narcissism is a love deficit; and a narcissist a lost soul.

It isn't that he's not fully equipped for human love. He is. Like everyone else, he is human. It's just that he hates the idea of being human. He has trained himself, from the time he was a child, increasingly, to feel disgust at signs of human "love stuff," to prove he's above such weakness.

He's fought hard, in...
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Addictive Relating

Narcissistic Abuse and the Symptoms of Narcissist Victim Syndrome


Narcissistic abuse is what a person in a relationship with someone that meets the criteria for narcissistic (NPD) or antisocial (APD) personality disorder experiences. The potentially crippling, life long effects of narcissistic abuse on a partner's mental health form a cluster of symptoms, not yet included in the DSM, known as narcissist victim syndrome.
Narcissistic abuse
Narcissists and sociopaths use language in specific ways, with a specific intent to take another's mind and will captive. The...
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Conscious Lifestyle

10 Habits to Make Happiness a Lifestyle

Life is so fascinating. There’s always something to learn and do, and there's unfinished business, a situation to resolve, a habit to break, a relationship to start or improve, something to see in new and different ways. It’s part of feeling alive.

Or is it? Does thinking about challenges or a relationship issues turn your mind to thoughts of lack? To feeling stuck, unhappy, stacking one negative on top of another? If so, your thoughts may be scaring you into...
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Conscious Lifestyle

7 Paths to Mind-Body Emotional M.A.S.T.E.R.Y.

Emotion mastery is a built-in capacity, often ignored yet always available.

It is a learned ability to thoughtfully respond in ways that disallow your body's survival-system from controlling you and your life with ineffective automatic reactions, defensive strategies, and the like.

Emotion mastery involves growing an awareness and connection to your thoughts, emotions and body sensations, and step by step, cultivating a practice, or lifestyle of making conscious, informed decisions that keep you on course to reaching your goals, and in the process to build the resiliency and confidence...
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Addictive Relating

7 Reasons Forgiveness Is Your Nature

Forgiveness, most agree, is the right thing to do. It's also an inner ability to access certain resources and cultivate the strength and courage needed to choose to take the higher road.  And the higher road, well, that's where you find wisdom, health, happiness, peace of mind, among other priceless gifts.

Arguably, forgiveness is a practice that is key to reaching your human potential, essentially, who you are.

There are at least 7 reasons why forgiveness can be described as integral to human nature:
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Addictive Relating

A Holiday Gift to Self, 3 Goals to Emotion Regulation Mastery (Feel Optimally!)


Emotion mastery is a learned ability to navigate challenging emotions and moments, and to feel optimally, at least enough to make choices you'll be happy with later.

It's a vital skill, also known as emotional intelligence.

Emotions are powerful energies, and upsetting emotions in particular, can either be our greatest teachers, when we understand them as action signals to help us grow — or our worst enemies, when we fight or seek to avoid or numb them.

"Love cures people, both...
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Conscious Lifestyle

7 Steps to Declare Freedom From Energy-Zapping Thoughts (EZTs)

Thoughts are powerful shapers of our lives, period. They shape our relationships too, even our character. If our thoughts are limiting, however, they are also energy zapping. Do you have the reins of your thoughts?

It's no longer theory, it's science.

Our habitual "self talk" seems to form a meaning-laden story that continually "tells us" who we are, how we should relate to our self, others, and life.

This running commentary, based on findings in the fields of cognitive and...
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Thanksgiving, Why Your Health and Happiness Depend On it

It’s that time of year again. The day of giving thanks is here, and with it, a reminder to reflect on the blessings in our lives.

How refreshing this holiday can be, pondering the beautiful truth it symbolizes!

Thanksgiving draws many like a magnet.

Let's “give thanks more often," you hear some say, while others chime in with, “why wait a year?"

Good question, why do most tend to wait for this time of year to...
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Beauty Lives .. It’s Our Nature to Choose Thoughts of Love and Healing

Today the hearts of many in our country, and around the world, are heavy in response to the election results.

There are feelings of grief and loss, anger and betrayal, among others, are only natural. These feelings after all reflect the extent and depth to which many on the left care about continued progress, in terms of granting every citizen -- and not just a select few -- the right and freedom to enjoy a living wage, clean air, water and food, and most of all to...
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