Your happiness is not something to take lightly. Your health, even key relationships, depend on your ability to overall feel good about yourself and life.
Advances in neuroscience methodology in the last few decades have allowed us to study success and happiness. Unlike success, happiness is not a goal. You, and every aspect of you, is wired for happiness.
Think of happiness as you would a trusted friend, and guide, one that can make facing challenges and realizing goals, big and small, easier and more meaningful along the way.
You’re wired to be emotionally happy, and physically healthy.
In the same way that you would improve your body care habits when you notice a scratch that doesn’t properly heal, when emotional stressors and challenges start wearing on your overall sense of happiness, look first at improving your thinking habits.
Your thoughts create images in your mind that your entire body responds to accordingly.
It’s simple. Fears that elevate fears drain energy overtime; and thoughts that elevate gratitude and hope energize you.
A focus on what you want or how you have overcome obstacles in the past, for example, is going to produce completely different chemical reactions inside you from a focus on what you lack or how your loved ones have not met your expectations.
Your thoughts about things that mean a lot to you say a lot about what core beliefs you hold about yourself, life, your worth, belief in your self, and whether you live in a world you trust or mistrust. Your beliefs are perceptions that interpret the events in your life.
In a nutshell, if you look closely at any area of your life in which your feel successful, you’ll find you overall think positive thoughts that exude a sense of confidence, hope, positive expectations and trust in yourself to produce good outcomes.
Here is a list of affirming beliefs of successful and happy people:
1. I am 100% responsible for my life, choices, and what I continue to create.
Happy persons let go of the toxic thinking pattern of blame, which fills the mind with lies that make a person feel powerless to take action, and replace them with action- and solution-oriented thinking. Findings show happy persons choose or intend to be happy regardless of outcomes and events around them.
2. I have a clear vision of my life, my goals, and aspirations.
It is no coincidence that some people are successful and happy. Happy people set goals guided by a clear vision of what they want overall in life or in a certain situation, and most importantly, they have a clear picture of how they want to be or show up in life (a foundation that builds character). They think thoughts that affirm and energize them. For example, mistakes or failures are opportunities to access their brain’s capacity for possibility or reflective thinking.
3. I love participating to energize and create success and excellence.
Happy individuals enjoy looking for and noting excellence in themselves and others, and seek to consistently add value to their own and others’ lives. They have an overall attitude, or thinking pattern, that views challenges as opportunities to grow, gain confidence, and they relish making lemonade of lemons thrown their way. They identify a problem, then use solution-focused rather than problem-focused thinking and talk.
4. I speak truth to power and seek to relate to myself and others with integrity to the best of my ability.
Happy persons seek to be honest with themselves and others, to the best of their ability. They speak in ways that are authentic, and avoid blame when they share their truth so that others can better receive and understand them. This activates feel-good feelings and sensations that keep emotions of hope and enthusiasm alive.
5. I am disciplined and thoughtfully attend to the care of my self and body and all that I love and brings meaning to my life.
Happy people realize self-discipline is key and do their best to practice self-discipline. They know it takes work, consistently applied, to form new optimal habits, and replace old limiting ones that block their success or goals. In contrast, patterns of blame-thinking activate feel-bad feelings, which release toxic chemicals that drain energy and prematurely kill brain cells.
6. I am both a learner and educator in life.
Happy individuals realize that, wittingly or unwittingly, life is about learning and growing, and wittingly or unwittingly, every person around us is a role model. They seek to be positive role models to others and in particular to younger adults and children.
7. I am both a team member and a leader.
Happy persons understand that there are situations in which they will be taking the lead, and others in which they must act as team members to realize group goals. They seek win-win solutions, and do whatever it takes to work with others and energize team efforts.
8. I maintain a lighthearted attitude, good humor, and love to laugh.
Happy people view life, self and others, as something to be enjoyed to fullest as much as possible. They do not use humor to tear other’s sense of self or character, rather to create an atmosphere of fun and happiness just for fun and, in other situations, because it lightens the load of work that needs to get done.
9. I am grateful for my life, and all I am, have, give and receive.
Happy individuals tend to count their blessings regularly, look for silver linings, and in general say thank you and express appreciation for others often.
10. I seek balance and harmony in the choices I make in my life.
Happy individuals understand the power that moment by moment choices has on their level of happiness, health, and wellbeing. It’s all about balance, and a way of thinking that empowers optimal emotions at any given time, allowing them to connect to their sense of agency, trust their ability to make optimal choices, yet also learn from mistakes, as they “make sense” of life experiences.