Archives for March, 2016

Addictive Relating

What It Means When a Narcissist Says “I Love You”

Dear Codependent Partner,

What I'm about to say is not something I'd ever say or admit (to you), because to do so would end the winner-takes-all-game that is my main source of pleasure in life -- one that effectively keeps you carrying my load in our relationship.

And that's the whole point.

When I say “I love you” I mean that I love how hard you work to make me feel like your everything, that I am the...
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The Neuroscience of Divisive Labels: One Poet’s Protest — “I’m NOT Black, You are NOT White”


Really moved by this video clip (on Oprah's network OWN) of a poem, I Am NOT Black, You Are NOT White by Prince Ea (a spoken word artist who is drawing millions of visitors, with his rap on topics of  social relationships, politics, environment, and life in general).

While an invitation to "not see race" is typically a position associated with the group promoting status quo (hierarchical) relations, in this spoken masterpiece, Prince Ea brings us a fresh perspective on labels, reflecting on their intentional use...
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