Archives for December, 2015

Addictive Relating

Stonewalling, What Makes It Similar Yet Distinct From Gaslighting? 1 of 2

Stonewalling shares some common ground with gaslighting.

Both are effective in blocking healthy communication, in particular, the sense of emotional safety and connection necessary that each person in the communication needs to deepen their mutual understanding of one another, in order to strengthen their relationship.

It's in their intent that they distinctly differ. Stonewalling is a learned defensive or protective strategy. In general, the person who stonewalls is using a learned albeit ineffective way of expressing intense emotions to a loved one, which...
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Emotional Mastery

A New Year’s Gift: Four Realities In “Re-Storying” Your Life to Realize Your Goals and Dreams



The cusp a New Year is a great time to reflect, and yes to dream big, connecting to your heart’s deepest yearnings -- what you want to see, create and choose to bring ever closer into your life in the coming year.

Setting goals is great exercise, proven to make a difference, especially if you use research-based approaches, such as setting “smart" goals. There’s another exercise to consider, however: Re-storying "the story" of your life....
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Emotional Mastery

14 Tips to Survive — and Enjoy — the Holidays

The holidays can be stressful, but they don't have to be unnecessarily so! Remember, you always have a choice to create more peace of mind by accessing inner power to conscious pay attention to what you're focusing on with your thoughts.  This involves clarifying what you most value, and cultivating the practice of disallowing things of less value to compete. It can be fun!

Here are a few tips:
Make meaningful moments by letting go of...
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