Archives for August, 2015

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What Is and Isn’t Narcissism: 3 Key Identifiers, 2 of 5

Many articles of late describe a narcissist as someone "in love" with themselves, absorbed with activities that promote their success, dreams and goals, skilled at charming others, attention seeking, and so on. Though a narcissist may exhibit these traits, and be charming, charismatic, successful and goal-oriented ... let's get real.

These characteristics, in and of themselves, are also essential human traits and, in varying degrees, describe behaviors of healthy persons who are driven to succeed in their careers at work or home,...
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3 Basics of Working (Mindfully) with a Narcissist in Therapy: A Balancing Act, 1 of 5

In response to a recent post, How to Identify a Narcissist in Therapy, several readers requested a follow up post that outlines a few essentials of working with a client who presents with narcissistic "tendencies" or npd (narcissistic personality disorder) in couples or family therapy, so as to disarm or minimize the potentially destabilizing effects of these problematic behaviors both in the sessions themselves -- and on therapeutic processes and outcomes in general. Other readers also wanted to know...
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How to Identify a Narcissist In Family or Couples Counseling

How does a therapist identify a narcissist in therapy? They don't have to; narcissists self-identifies. They come dictating the terms; letting the therapist know who's in control, and expect things done "their" way. They hoard therapy time, derail the focus of conversations, absorb therapist's energy, and refuse to cooperate with simple therapy processes.

They cannot help it. To an experienced therapist, a narcissist identifies themselves.

What if you're not experienced, however? Or you're a client in joint therapy as a partner or family member? How do...
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