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Addictive Relating

A Checklist of 12 Science-of-Love Approved Wedding Vows, 2 of 2

    This post lists the last 6 of 12 science-backed wedding vows, and is a continuation of Part 1. They are
7. "I vow to disallow my past to negatively influence our present and future together as individuals and a couple.
This vow stems from research on couple communications and forgiveness. Consciously or not, early experiences in interactions with primary caregivers can subconsciously shape our lives, particularly events that were emotionally intense. Many or most core beliefs about who we...
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Addictive Relating

What Does Reactivity Say? Finding Balance in Your Couple Relationship (Beneath the Surface)?

Recent findings on the brain and intimacy remind us that all communications, regardless their delivery, are attempts to emotionally connect. We are wired for love and empathic connection.

With this in mind, let's explore what defensive patterns in your couple relationship are saying to you and your partner. To be sure, your brains and emotions, thoughts and feelings, are doing what they’re designed to do whenever you or your partner perceive a threat, in this case, a threat to meeting a core attachment or intimacy...
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Conscious Lifestyle

A Science-of-Love Approved Checklist of 12 Wedding Vows, 1 of 2

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A recent article on Science of Relationships outlined a list of ten research-based wedding vows. Based on findings, Samantha Joel outlined vows that, if followed, would best guarantee marital bliss. The below list of 12 vows is adapted from the original.
1. "I vow to think highly of you, and seek to know and appreciate you for who you are,...
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Body Wisdom: Taking the Reins of Your Health and Happiness, 2 of 2

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You and your body are one vast interconnected communication system that operates nonstop.
Both you (thoughts and beliefs) and your body (physio-emotion responses) are sending signals to each other around the clock.
You're at a slight disadvantage, however, as discussed in Part 1. Unlike you, your body's mind or subconscious, comes pre-wired with the knowledge...
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Conscious Lifestyle

Does Your Brain Trick You Out of Happiness In Your Love Relationship?



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When you and your partner discuss a hot topic, do you handle it in a way that enriches your relationship — and ultimately your happiness -- or does your experience put more emotional distance between you and polarize your positions? Many couples fall in the latter category.

Think about it. It's tempting, isn't it, to use our capacity for logic to build a case against the other?...
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Conscious Lifestyle

Mirror Neurons: How Our Ability to Connect With Others Makes Us Caring, Moral By Nature

As it turns out, social sciences and religions alike have been seriously wrong when it comes to labeling humans as inherently "bad," "selfish" or "aggressive," and so on, by nature or from birth. Similarly, scientific thought has mislead us at times into thinking that our instincts for survival have been the primary motivating force of nature, to include human nature.

(It begs the question: Is it coincidence that we've been simultaneously taught to think of love as fluffy,...
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