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Healthy Holidays: A Conscious Relationship With Your Mind and Body

When it comes to mealtime gathering traditions around the world, most every one toasts health! Your health is no small matter; all your other life goals depend on it.
Are you in a consciously healthy relationship with your mind and body? In other words, are you listening, feeling and making conscious choices to enjoy the holidays but also make healthy choices when it comes to food and drinks?
Here are a few tips for setting a conscious intention to realize your goals for sticking with a healthy lifestyle – even as you party and celebrate holiday gatherings.
Set aside a few moments the day before an event to rehearse in your mind what you will and will not do. Repeat as you prepare to go. This strengthens your resolve psychologically and puts conscious you in charge making sure you don’t get caught off guard. For example:

  • Decide in advance what you will be eating and that you will not deviate from the plan. Then stick to your plan.
  • Choose foods with the end in mind. See yourself enjoying foods that support your healthy lifestyle and allow you to not only feel great after the meal, but also get a good night’s sleep and feel great the next day.
  • Imagine yourself taking small bites and savoring each mouthful for both how delicious it tastes to your taste buds and also how “deliciously” healthy it is for all of you, body and mind.
  • Picture yourself connecting to life around you, putting down the tableware between bites, enjoying conversation with others around you, and so on.
  • See yourself saying “No” to what is costly and “Yes” to enjoying the benefits of saying “No”  – and feel how much fun it is to stick to your health and wellness goals.
  • Smile while feeling the good feelings of making healthy choices with relative ease and confidence.
  • See yourself easily passing up certain foods that you know from past experiences they’ve left you feeling lousy, bloated, numbed out after a meal.
  • Picture yourself looking past previously tempting foods and easily saying “No!” because you now see how they spoiled your mood, stole your energy the next day, spoiled your mood, robbed you of restful nights of sleep, etc.

Start a practice of consciously shifting thoughts in your mind to align your thoughts with your highest goals and aspirations, in this case, your health and fitness goals. Consider the following:

  • Associate foods that support a healthy lifestyle with words such as “safe and healthy,” “delicious and energizing” or “nourishing and happy-energy” and so on.
  • Link sugary, high-carb fatty foods, in contrast, with words such as “unsafe and stress-inducing” or “toxic and happiness-stealing” and so on.
  • Keep to general guidelines when you do not know what is being served and cannot plan in advance, such as: 25% protein, 25% carbohydrates and at least 50% green, leafy or brightly colored vegetables.
  • Be prepared to say “No, thank you” to certain invitations, i.e., to have seconds or to take home leftovers, and picture yourself doing so in a caring for self-and-others way.
  • Decide whether you will eat ‘dessert’ or not, and if you do, see yourself choosing a small portion, letting go of guilt or afterthoughts, and remind yourself that you first ate wholesome food to protect your body from its impact etc.
  • Decide other guidelines in advance and envision yourself following them easily and effortlessly.
  • Consider taking a digestive enzyme at the start of a meal, if you wish, as well as a probiotic after a meal to energize your digestion. (If you do, follow instructions on bottle or check with your nutritionist.)
You have built-in capacity to self-direct changes in your lifestyle and health, with conscious thought and action, that allows your body to work together with our mind. Enjoy the holidays more this year, and give yourself the gift of a healthy, conscious relationship with your mind and body.
Healthy holidays!


Healthy Holidays: A Conscious Relationship With Your Mind and Body

Athena Staik, Ph.D.

Relationship consultant, author, licensed marriage and family therapist, Dr. Athena Staik motivates clients to break free of anxiety, emotion reactivity, and other addictive patterns, to awaken wholehearted relating to self and other. She is currently in private practice in Northern VA, and writing her book, What a Narcissist Means When He Says 'I Love You'": Breaking Free of Addictive Love in Couple Relationships. To contact Dr. Staik for information, an appointment or workshop, visit, or visit on her two Facebook fan pages DrAthenaStaik and DrStaik

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Staik, A. (2013). Healthy Holidays: A Conscious Relationship With Your Mind and Body. Psych Central. Retrieved on February 21, 2020, from


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