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Conscious Lifestyle

Reasons Not to Give Up On Someone You Love (Who’s Acting In Hurtful Ways)



Never give up hope or think it is too late for someone you love and care about to change in healing directions.

Let go of trying to change them, for certain, and you may need to make the tough choice to let go of the relationship rather than watch someone you love engage in harming behaviors -- but always keep your hope alive.

To never give up means to remain consciously active in hoping:

To see the best...
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Conscious Lifestyle

What We Know From Studies of Intimacy and Attachment

Why are some interactions with your partner so intense? And why do you, in certain situations, say and do things you'd rather not - perhaps with a compulsion to do so?
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Many partners have "Ah-ha" moments of recognition when they first learn that some of the feelings they experience in response to one another have very real biological causes.
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The answer to these questions, to a great extent, has to do with certain chemicals or hormones --...
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Addictive Relating

The Impact of Childhood “Attachment Styles” On Couple Relationships? 2 of 2




Emotions are central to attachment, and based on their effects on our autonomic nervous system, they fall primarily in one of two categories, love or fear in varying intensity. In other words, they are either overall stabilizing or destabilizing.

Perhaps no relationship is more intense, complex and challenging in its ability to discombobulate our otherwise healthy ability to think clearly and intelligently, make sound choices and engage common sense.

When our bids for connection with our partner...
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Addictive Relating

10 Excuses for Not Saying “I’m Sorry” or Making Amends

Among the most powerful words to say in healing our relationships are, "I'm sorry. I was wrong. Please forgive me. How can I make it up to you?"
And yet, even when we know we've acted wrongly, something inside blocks us from saying so or taking action to make amends. More often, that something is a set of beliefs we hold that act as excuses.

Excuses are often assumptions that, whether conscious or subconscious, block...
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