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Seven Habits to Bring Out the Best in Life and Relationships, 2 of 2

images-515This post is a continuation from Part 1 that listed four of seven mindful, conscious habits that bring out the best in life.  A conscious habit is a choice to practice, remain aware and take action in the direction of working wonders in your life and relationships.

Here are habits five through seven:

Habit #5.  Positive Thinking 

Take complete responsibility for the thoughts you think.  Your thoughts trigger emotional states that have tremendous power to energize or de-energize your momentum. One of the biggest mistakes most people make in their thinking is to focus on what they do not want, what they lack, what’s not going right, and so on.

This is a mistake because whatever we put our thoughts on is emotional energy that expands.

Think of emotions as energy in motion, which means they drive and shape our actions.  Always begin every morning, each activity or interaction with others with the end in mind, focusing on what you want to create. Sweep aside the negative clutter and define your purpose to begin today to fulfill yourself.  Wherever possible avoid negative thoughts, and hanging around negative people, and actively seek to associate with positive people, committed to success instead.  When you feel less recognized than you want to be, for example, shift your focus instead on “giving” more of what you want in your life.

Sports psychologists train athletes to think big, then act as if they have it in order to produce peak performance states.  It works for you in the same way.  Praise yourself for past accomplishments, take stock of your strong qualities and work to nurture and improve those that are underdeveloped. The sky is the limit, so think big!  You have a purpose, and a mission in life — and your overall health and happiness makes your life work lighter, easier to achieve, and more enjoyable.  Start smiling more and look to the positive side, or lesson, in everything.

Habit #6. Small Action Steps to Energize Momentum

Make your life easier by learning to turn your goals into small action steps.  You will realize what you aspire more quickly and easily when you take action to keep your momentum moving forward, slowly and steadily, adjusting your course, as necessary, in the direction you want to go.

Think of a skyscraper. It was built brick by brick, one at a time. So are your dreams. Concentrate on what you “can” do that would contribute to your vision, such as 10 minutes of exercise first thing in the morning, 15 minutes to write a thank you note, or 5 minutes to let someone know you appreciate them.  Develop a step by step approach to reaching your goals.  Then, protect your momentum by steering clear of negative self-talk, and thus keeping the picture of your success in bright focus.  With a resolute attitude you are well on your way.

Habit #7. Consistency 

Perhaps the most important habit is to be consistent in whatever you do. Being consistent makes the difference between realizing a modicum or the fullest extent of your dreams. Test this for yourself. Look more closely at the lives of a few persons that are successful in your eyes, and conduct your own study to better understand how they achieved results. You will find consistency is a unifying characteristic. Whenever you stop to admire a person for their success, in any endeavor, remind yourself that his or her success was not a “hit-or-miss” or “whenever” endeavor, rather a series of consistent actions sustained by passion and caring. Success is less about the intensity at the beginning, and more about the consistent actions you take that then become habits.  Focus first on instilling the habit until it becomes a natural part of your life.  Once set, it will be easy to raise the intensity.

Success is a set of mindful practices, diligently and lovingly and consistently carried out.  Make the decision today.  Take a look at the one and only person responsible for realizing the happiness and fulfillment you seek: YOU. Decide today what you create.

Seven Habits to Bring Out the Best in Life and Relationships, 2 of 2

Athena Staik, Ph.D.

Relationship consultant, author, licensed marriage and family therapist, Dr. Athena Staik motivates clients to break free of anxiety, emotion reactivity, and other addictive patterns, to awaken wholehearted relating to self and other. She is currently in private practice in Northern VA, and writing her book, What a Narcissist Means When He Says 'I Love You'": Breaking Free of Addictive Love in Couple Relationships. To contact Dr. Staik for information, an appointment or workshop, visit, or visit on her two Facebook fan pages DrAthenaStaik and DrStaik

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Staik, A. (2014). Seven Habits to Bring Out the Best in Life and Relationships, 2 of 2. Psych Central. Retrieved on January 21, 2020, from


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