Archives for January, 2013

Emotional Mastery

Expressing the Emotion of Anger, 2 of 3: Five Essential Things to Understand About Its Risks and Benefits

Despite misconceptions, as discussed in Part 1, expressing anger is a choice between actions that are defensive in nature and thus increase distance between us, and actions that are effective in increasing our understanding of one another, and keeping communication lines open.

Just as the uses and benefits of lemons are more numerous and significant than most can imagine, so are the possibilities of anger, when expressed effectively, to clarify, spark and produce a...
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Conscious Lifestyle

Expressing the Emotion of Anger, 1 of 3: Common Misconceptions About Anger

Anger is like a lemon. It's easy to overreact to its reputed punch (no pun intended), and quickly develop a distaste for it, dismissing its potential and unique value to your health.

Also like anger, lemons are balancing agents. They cleanse and set the pH in your body in balance. At the same time, they were never intended by nature to be digested as a main course.

The health benefits of lemons are many, in other words, if...
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Conscious Lifestyle

A Conscious Writing of Your Life Story, 1 of 2: The Authentic Wise-Self vs The Wounded Ego-Self

Believe it or not, the author and creator of your life story is you.

And, it's not a question of "if" you write (and continually rewrite) your story.

It's rather about who  – or what part of you – is doing most of the writing.

More specifically, will the primary author be your authentic wise-self or your wounded ego-self?

Does it matter? Yes! The former is mostly a conscious process you fully participate in, and the latter is mostly directed by your subconscious mind.

Though both seek to...
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Emotional Mastery

Affect Regulation: The Case Against Punitive Parenting and For Emotionally-Present Parenting


Safe to say, the inability to handle emotional distress is widespread enough to consider it a national pandemic.

The pandemic is connected to anxious ways we have learned to avoid, deny or strongly react to emotions that are uncomfortable or painful.

We learn these desperate ways of dealing with painful emotions in childhood and carry them into our relationships in adulthood. Whether our primary response to distress is a strategy that activates overwhelm, angry outbursts or...
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