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Addictive Relating

Toxic Relationship Patterns – Intensity, Destabilizing Tactics & Preconceived Perceptions (2 of 4)

"Becoming" by Jennifer Main

A toxic relationship is one that is out of balance, in many ways, a reflection of its impact on the inner world of each partner. It is kept off balance, paradoxically, by the attempts each partner makes - in triggering moments - to increase their own sense of safety in relation to the other.

In Part 1, we explored five toxic interaction patterns in which partners inadvertently collude with one...
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Couples Communication

Toxic Relating Patterns – Five Protective Neural Patterns & Role Scripts (1 of 4)

Love that turns toxic is neither healthy nor genuine, though the intentions of each partner are often well-meaning.

A couple relationship can be described as toxic when, due to emotional reactivity and defensive reaction patterns, it no longer promotes, and instead harms the mental, emotional and, or physical health, well-being and growth of each partner. The relationship is increasingly off balance, a factor that is affected by and directly affects the individual inner sense...
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Couples Communication

The Neuroscience of ‘Genuine’ Love – And What Love Quotes Say!

Everyone has ideas about love; for human beings, it is a lifelong preoccupation. The love relationship is unique in that, across cultures, nothing drives otherwise normal human beings to do crazy things than the quest for a love bond in a couple relationship.

What is genuine love, however?

It has many attributes. One experience of love is, as Mark Twain describes, "the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired." Recent findings in neuroscience would agree with Mr....
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7 Steps to Develop Awareness of Your Feelings and Thoughts

Your thoughts are an inner dialogue. You have an average of about six thousand thoughts a day, most of which you habitually repeat to yourself. In many cases, you learned to think these thoughts from experiences with your primary caregivers in childhood, and have been repeating them from that time.

Considering that cognitive abilities do not fully develop until the mid-20s, you can imagine how many of these thoughts no longer serve you.

Why develop your...
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