Archives for October, 2011

Addictive Relating

Eroticized Dominance – Emotional Grooming, Predatory Behaviors As Cultural Norms?

The eroticization of male dominance and female passivity in couple relations is a game in which there are no winners, a luring trap that blocks what makes human relationships human —  an empathic connection — a hardwired drive to mutually know and compassionately understand one another that is rooted in our nature to matter as meaning-seeking relational beings.

This capacity remains dormant, however, unless developed. It is a learned ability that requires such skills as being open...
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Conscious Lifestyle

Cultivating a Practice of Mindful Breathing – Three Essential Principles (3 of 3)


Mindful breathing is a built-in tool that can help us monitor, self-direct and transform our experience of life.

In Part 1 we looked at the benefits of mindful breathing, as a common thread in practices of mindfulness and self-directed healing; and, in Part 2 we explored three ways in which our breath invites us to get involved, as an active partner, in optimally enhancing our life and relationships.

In this third of a 3-part series,...
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Addictive Relating

World Mental Health Day: Human Nature and the Power of Our Stories


Human beings are fascinated by stories. It's part of our nature, as much as breathing, and our brain learns best through the telling of stories.

Simply put, we are born storytellers. We fashion a story about ourselves from the time we are born, if not earlier.

Our story contains an array of verbal, visual, and other felt sensory elements, in addition to a storyline that can endure a lifetime.

This storyline...
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Conscious Lifestyle

Cultivating a Practice of Mindful Breathing – Breath, An Active Partner (2 of 3)


Whether within or outside of our awareness, at any given time, our breath relates to us as an active partner.

It does its part, and like a good partner, it ever invites us to work together, as a team, to optimally nourish our own health and well-being.

In Part 1, we explored how vital a practice of mindful breathing is to our physical and emotional well-being, and some of its proven benefits.

In this...
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Conscious Lifestyle

Cultivating a Practice of Mindful Breathing – Its Benefits (1 of 3)


In the last few decades, we have learned a lot about the beneficial effects of mindfulness and the mind-body connection on health, as well as quality of life and relationships.

A key aspect of a conscious lifestyle and living with awareness is developing a practice of mindful breathing, also known as diaphragmatic or deep breathing. In truth, deep breathing is a form of meditation.

Our breath is designed...
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