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Addictive Relating

Seven Toxic Thinking Patterns to Break – How Pseudo “Feel-Goods” Trick Your Brain (2 of 2)

There are at least seven toxic thinking patterns that can put a hold on our brain, and imprison it with pseudo feel-goods, and other lies.
As noted in Part 1, functionally, these topsy-turvy beliefs are protective strategies, designed to activate our defenses when something triggers us. Because this lowers anxiety in varying degrees, it also stimulates the reward centers of the brain — and explains why, at least subconsciously, we...
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Addictive Relating

Toxic Thinking Patterns – How Pseudo “Feel-Goods” Put Your Brain on Hold (1 of 2)

Habitual thinking patterns that cause intense feelings of fear, anger, shame or guilt are not only toxic, but also addictive in nature.

Why? They stimulate pleasure and learning centers of the brain similar to addictive substances.

Toxic thinking is characteristically compulsive in nature and causes intense fear-based feelings, which can overwhelm or zap our body’s energy supply. It consists of thoughts that habitually forecast disaster, perpetuate worry, instill doubt, obsess on perfection, describe self (or another) as a...
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Emotional Mastery

Three Neuroscience Findings on Happiness – Is It An Option?

Is happiness a mere option? Neuroscience says not. It’s better described as an inborn striving that is hardwired into our brains and shapes our behaviors from the cradle to the grave.

In the words of the Dalai Lama, an avid researcher himself: “Our purpose in life is to be happy. From the very core of our being, we simply desire contentment.”

Thanks to neuroscience and recent findings on the brain and relationships, we now know...
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Conscious Lifestyle

The First Task of Life? Survival and Our Quest to Be Loved

No wonder we cry at birth! From the get go, it seems, Mother Nature challenges us to learn and grown, for example, to get comfortable with totally new physical sensations, such as hunger, thirst and the pain of breathing oxygen into our lungs, etc., inviting us to see and make increasingly complex choices later in life that require us to cultivate the ability to make distinctions between pain that is there to grow us, and needless suffering.

It starts from the...
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