Archives for May, 2011

Addictive Relating

Is It Addictive Relating or Is It Subconscious Fear of Intimacy?

Addiction seems a paradox, as psychologist and author Dr. Brenda Schaeffer pointed out in a ground-breaking book published in the late 1980s, titled Is It Love or Is It Addiction, a frantic attempt to get control over our life that, instead, relinquishes control to some substance, activity or person.

It is also a cheap substitute for authentic living, and an ineffective and potentially lethal option at that.

At best, addiction offers quick-fix doses of relief that merely...
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Couples Communication

Your Brain, Mindful Presence and Five Practices to Energize Your Relationship, 2 of 2

Emotions of love and compassion give meaning and purpose to life. The brain is wired with circuitry for caring and empathic connection.

It is “a relationship organ,” as described by researcher Dr. Daniel Siegel. It can be said that all experience in life is relational. Your experience of self is always in relation to self, other persons, to life itself, for example.

Your deepest strivings are for love and meaningful connection to life within and around you. This...
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Conscious Lifestyle

The Five Freedoms of Becoming More Fully Human – Virginia Satir & Mental Health

In celebration of mental health, today’s post honors family psychotherapist and social worker extraordinaire Virginia Satir.

Recognized by many as “the pioneer of family therapy,” she developed her own approach, conjoint family therapy, in the 1960s, later known as the human validation process model or the Satir Change Model as applied to business organizations.

She had a great impact on the practice of therapy in general (and was a huge influence on yours truly!).

Virginia Satir...
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Addictive Relating

The Power of Presence and How You Relate – Love or Fear? 1 of 2


When you own your ability to create happiness, you feel personally empowered, and effective in your relationships, as a partner, parent, colleague, leader, and so on.

Your ability to choose iss power. You have a built-in ability to create happiness in your life and relationships, and the quality of your presence is the substance that builds trust.

Power here is defined as a choice that shapes actions and outcome - by energizing emotions rooted in love or...
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General

Julia Ward Howe and the First Mother’s Day Proclamation, 1870

The first attempts to establish a Mother’s Day in North America began with groups of women who came together to promote peace. More specifically, it started with a Proclamation written by a prominent activist, Julia Ward Howe, who had authored The Battle Hymn of the Republic 12 years earlier.

The proclamation was written in response to the death and destruction of the Civil War that Julia Ward Howe had witnessed.

She worked with widows and orphans of soldiers...
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